What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 65
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Medina
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? supervisor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? several
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Took Three Years, But It Was Worth It.

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife went to school with him. I had just met him. He was average looking, six foot 4 inches tall.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I started it. It took me 3 years to talk my wife into sharing. She texted back and forth with her friend on facebook. Then one day he asked if we were into threesomes. She told me and we talked about it. She told him no at the time. She had said if we ever to have a threesome it had to be with someone we knew. I asked her if she would want to do it with him. She said maybe. So we set up a time I could meet him. We talked and agree to try it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met at a hotel. We were all nervous. She had on a dress that button down the front. I stood behind her and he stood in front of her. We took turns unbuttoning her dress. When the last button was undone the dress was removed. She was wearing a black bra and lace panties. My wife has 44dd breast. He could not keep his hands off them. I unhooked her bra and removed it. Now we had full access to her breasts. I asked him if he liked them. He said: “Oh yeah!” I told him he should taste them. I didn’t have to tell him twice. My wife undid his pants. When his pants hit the floor, I said we should move to the bed. When my wife laid down on the bed I removed her panties. Tim laid on one side and I laid on the other side of her. We both rubbed our hands up and down her naked body. She reached over and started stroking his cock. Tim then moved down and started using his tongue on her. I moved up and she took me into her mouth. This went on for a few minutes until she had her first of many orgasms. I told her she should let Tim feel how good her mouth feels. We changed positions. Then she gave Tim head and I played with her with my fingers. I heard Tim say he was about to cum and then he did. I then climbed onto of my wife and penetrated her until she came. We tried ever position we could think of all night long.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had several hook ups at our house. We finally stopped seeing him. All he wanted to do was talk about his problems. Not what you want to hear about while having sex.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Showed how much we love each other.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we had to stop seeing him for the reason we did.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Somewhat

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We have had two more FWB since this time. The second one has been the best so far. We lost him to him finding a steady girl friend. The one we have now is so good so far.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It only good if you truly love and trust each other.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Have no thoughts at this time.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!