What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status?
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? The past week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was traveling for a few months and decided to do something different, this happened post break up.
We met on an online app and decided to meet at his place. He’s pretty cute, with small eyes and a pretty decent body. We chatted and he seems rather polite and respectful.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After chatting for a day or two, we decided to meet at his place. It was pretty spontaneous.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After chatting and making ourselves comfortable with one another, he led me to his room. We were pretty clear that this was gonna be a hook up and we went straight do what we wanted to do.
We started kissing passionately and undressing each other as we went along. When we were all naked, he started licking and fingering me. He was caressing my breast at the same time. It felt really good and I did the same by giving him oral as well. He was hard pretty fast the first time. Then he penetrated and we did various positions including missionary, doggy, side by side, gripping etc. He was pretty dominating which was awesome as he decides whats next too. It lasted for a while and finished off in the missionary position. We rested, chatted and started another round.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We chatted like we were friends and there was no awkward feelings towards one another. We even planned to meet in the next few days for a few sessions before I left the country. I was happy that I did this as it gave me a liberated feeling.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup?
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? everything
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was worried that things are going to be awkward, strange or even get attached. But it was not like what I thought. It was fun and I recognize that I can enjoy the fun times without getting attached.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As much as many people around me may not agree to having hook ups are good, I felt this made me changed my perspective too. Post break up made me feel like crap sometimes as well. I lose confidence in myself sometimes. But this experience made feel more confident pursuing what I want and it made me feel like I appreciate my body better too. Felt like being Asian, sometimes it is hard to express the sexual needs of one. There’s a lot stigma involved as well. But going after what I want is essentially important. As long as both parties know what they want, talk about it and having consensus, it will definitely be healthy and fun for both. There should be more openess in the society regarding this as sexual health is as important too.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its a great project. We are not alone in this 🙂
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