by Traveldude

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Travel with a Side of One-Night Stands

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was pretty but I honestly didn’t feel that attracted to her when we first met. I didn’t know her at all but she always smiled at me when I saw her in the kitchen at the off campus housing I was staying at when I was doing a Master’s degree in NE China. I hadn’t been there long enough to buy cooking supplies so I needed to borrow pots/knives etc from folks. She loaned me her knife and I brought it back to her dorm.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? A couple of buddies of mine came to my room and took my smartphone away from me and messaged a girl from Russia to come to my room for oral sex, only partly joking because 10 minutes later she was knocking at my door and my friends were hiding in the bathroom laughing. I was not amused by this and threatened to open the door and make her go away. My friends saw that I was serious and (still not letting me get my phone) messaged her to go away. Then they started scrolling though my text history and noticed the girl from Thailand that I borrowed the kitchen knife from, remarking that she was sending me a bunch of messages that I barely replied to, because I wasn’t really interested.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? My friends used my phone to ask the Thai girl to send a naked picture of herself. She refused. At that point I thought whatever view she had of me had been tarnished and I would get a bad reputation among the international students staying in the building, including the beautiful Ukranian girl I was actually casually dating at the time. To my suprise, the Thai girl messaged that she would like to come over and watch a movie. At this point I’d had it with my friends’ antics, wrestled back my phone, and shortly after they left. The Thai girl brought over soda and we watched Lost in Translation. After the movie, I sensed from her smile that I should push the envelope with her, since my reputation as an upstanding guy would inevitably be gone by the time the Russian girl got word to the Ukranian girl that I had asked for oral sex. I asked the Thai girl if I could kiss her, and she just smiled. I moved closer and started with the nape of her neck, then her cheek and finally her lips. I stuck my tounge in her mouth, then asker her to lay on the bed next to me. I slid my hand into her blouse, underneath her bra and started cupping one of her breasts. I really couldn’t take the touching much longer before I needed her skin to touch my cock. We had a discussion about whether or not I thought she was a bad girl (she was a Bhuddist) and I said ‘no’ empathetically before she took off her top, then bra and let me suck on both her nipples. I then proceeded to slide my hand down her panties but she stopped me, explaining in rudimentary English that it was that time of the month for her. The rest of that night was spent jerking off while she watched and touched my balls. Because I hadn’t cum in a while, it ended up everywhere; on her hand, the sheets, the chair and the floor. It was a violent volcanic eruption and she cleaned it all up. I spent the following week paranoid that I’d be cleaning up the mess my friends made for me, but nothing happened and l even had dinner with the Thai girl and her roomate like normal. I don’t remember how but the Thai girl was in my room again watching a movie and all the while I was worried about my Ukranian friend knocking on the door and catching me with her. After the movie, I basically took off my pants and put her hand on my already engorged cock. I really am a feminist but I just had the urge to treat her like she meant nothing to me. If she wasn’t cool with it, I was going to jerk off anyway after I made her leave. Thankfully, she was cool with it, but after she climbed into bed with me she asked if I was married or had a girlfriend, I said no with a straight face, trying not to think of my Ukranian friend, who I had just had an argument with. I looked at her and my penis, trying to use body language to tell her I wanted to feel the back of her throat on the tip of my penis, but she wasn’t game. However, she turned around and sat on the edge of the bed. I put my hands under her blouse as she raised her arms and slid it off. I then unclasped her bra from behind, it felt so exciting seeing her half naked from behind and kissing her back while I felt her breasts. I made her stand up so I could see her panties drop to the floor while I stroked my cock, ready to plow through her. I stood up out of the bed, then my hand instantly went down to her crack as we kissed, She was shaven (a bit prickly) and dry. I made her climb into bed and lay on her back and I followed. I loved the feeling of her hand on my cock as she asked “condom?” I explained that I didn’t have any, then searched the net (seriously) for any sign of how long after a period a woman was infertile. She finally got impatient and said, “it’s ok, I just take medicine” and I figured that I’d just rather feel her raw anyway. I did everything slowly, kissing, touching and rubbing my penis – dripping with pre cum – on her clit. Everything between her legs was warm. I just remember how difficult it was to get me inside. She was so incredibly tight I couldn’t believe it. Finally after her pre cum had sufficiently lubricated my shaft, it popped in and I was deep inside. The longer we had sex, the more slimy her juices were. Because of the risks: pregnancy, my Ukranian girlfriend putting her ear to the door, STD’s and STI’s, I really got even more turned on. I can’t even imagine using a condom for future encounters. I’m saying this as an educated person who knows the risks associated with casual unprotected sex with someone you barely know, but it felt so good, warm and sticky. I withdrew from her slowly and her vagina gripped me until the last moments when all of me was finally out. I made her turn around where I could see her ass and we did it doggy style, which made it much easier for me to slide inside her. The headboard knocked against the wall with every thrust and I closed my eyes and imagined all the girls I met so far in China opening their vagina’s to me for unprotected sex. As someone who comes from a conservative culture and family, this sexual behavior was unlike me. I forgot eveything when I saw her juices on my shaft and pubic hair and dripping down my balls. Exhausted, I finally withdrew completely and laid on my back. She jerked me off until I came all over the small room like the week before. We cuddled in bed the entire cold night and in the early morning when I was still asleep, she must have gotten dressed and left. Her scent was still on my cock despite us both washing up after sex.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There wasn’t much time to really think about it. That ended up being my last night in China, as all residents had to pack up and leave the building and I had tickets to Toronto. I met my Ukranian friend downstairs in the lobby, and asked for one last hug. She looked really hurt but I think it was because of the argument that I had with her and the fact that I hung out with other girls in the days leading up to me leaving China, without paying her any attention. To this day, I still haven’t figured out what the look in her eyes was, jealousy, betrayal, not wanting to say goodbye? A woman’s intuition seeded by rumours from the Russian girl?

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only the buddies of mine who took my phone and played around with it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The Thai girl messaged me and we still stay in touch very infrequently. After the hookup she said it was ok to just forget about her and that she would do the same for me. It made me wonder why sex couldn’t always be like this.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I potentially hurt my Ukranian friend. To this day she won’t talk to me. A few months later, I also got worried about STD’s and this led to me thankfully getting negative test results for everything.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No. My attitude toward sex changed once I left my faith behind, actually. I studied theology in a conservative Christian university in the “Bible Belt” in Texas, US. I was also involved in mission work in Africa and inner city ministry to homeless, drug addicted people. I was also an alter boy and went to private christian schools (not in the USA) through 12th grade. I have a devistating genetic disorder (non communicable) from which a high school friend recently died when he was 28. When I saw his body in the coffin, I realized that my lifespan might be truncated too. I took stock of my life so far and realized that I’d never had any fun and the Christian women “friends” around me never respected me enough to say they weren’t attracted to me or saw nothing but friendship for us well into the future. When I expressed an interest in dating, my friends in the church stopped returing phone calls, emails and stopped wanting to hang out. Essentially, “we can still be friends” means the opposite, when it comes from a Christian female. Between that and seeing my friends pair off and get married, and girls who laughed at me behind my back, I could clearly see that crying into my pillow for Jesus to heal me or just hold me until I fell asleep wasn’t going to cure my deeply rooted need for companionship. Nor were the pathetic remedies of so called “single’s retreats” that the church had on offer for the lonely men and women whom no one wanted to date. I find its impossible to be religious person and have healthy view of sex. In Christianity, sex is seen as something that is heteronormative and closely linked to marraige, completely overlooking the reality that there are some people who aren’t sucessful with the opposite sex and/or are not single by choice. Because I’ve left all religion behind and can view some women – thanks to this hookup – as just as emotionally unattached to sex as men can be, I think I’m better off.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think I addressed this above. Basically, I wish people could be honest about their sexual apitite without taking into account other peoples’ prejudices. I wasted so many years in the church hoping and praying for God to either provide a woman for me or take away my sexual desires and emotional need for companionship. I become really upset when I think how many people hide their sexual behavior because their religion, family or societal norms prevent them from being their full sexual selves. For example, how many gay people are upstanding memebers of their society hiding behind their fake loveless, sexless marraiges (and children from those marraiges) who can’t be themselves because of religion or self hate? The only Christians who wanted to have sex with me were the closeted gay men who held leadership positions in the church! How sad for them that they had to sneek around.

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