by Jimmy Malone
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 66
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? St Kitts
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Agriculturist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? about 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Zero
How long ago did this hookup happen? 37 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met randomly at the roadside in New South Wales Australia. We were both hitch-hiking. Our need to get to Ballarat brought us together and we became travel friends, swapping addresses when our travels went in different directions. Verity was younger than me and a beautiful red headed lassie.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Our random meeting in Australia lead to our reunion in Scotland about 2 years later.
Verity drove north to visit me as she wanted to visit The Isle of Skye. I was living alone in a big old rented house at the time. It never occurred to me we might have sex. I gave her (and her two pet dogs) the spare room. We had a great day on Skye followed by a meal in a cozy pub that allowed pets to come in. It was a Sunday night and I had to work the next day, so we went to bed at about 10 pm.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I had dozed off at about 10:30 pm when I became aware Verity was by my bed. “It’s cold in my room” she said, ”could I get warm with you.” I mumbled ”yes,” unsure what would happen next. I watched as she undressed beside my bed. First her jersey; then her shirt; then her bra; ….slight hesitation….then down came her jeans and next thing I knew she was cuddling up to me…and we were kissing roughly & passionately. She had her hand on my erect penis (I always slept naked). She arched her back up and slid down her knickers, before guiding me in. I jumped her bones 3 times that night and she wanted me to. I’d only lost my virginity about 3 years previously and wasn’t very skilled at lovemaking. Between making love we were keeping warm in each other’s arms.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning we dressed and had a coffee. She had a long drive to England.
I was late for work, so we said goodbye at a petrol station in Inverness. I’ve never seen her since, though we have been in touch.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I was surprised, amazed, astonished when Verity came to my bedside asking if she could come into my bed, “to get warm”
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never talked to anyone, about this.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The randomness & unexpectedness of it happening
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Verity disappeared down the A9 …..never to be seen again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little bit….it happened since a few times, though I’m very slow on the uptake.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was the most amazing unexpected experience. I was just a little worried at the time about pregnancy as I was in no good financial state, or emotionally ready, to be a father. I do not think Verity intended (at the time)
to become pregnant either, though some years later she had a daughter, who was planned. (A few weeks later she wrote saying she had had her period…)
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Since then I have enjoyed more casual sex here & there. Usually, for me, the woman has
approached me quite strongly. I’m a wee bit shy about pursuing things.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great…It’s a way I can share something about my life that I do not talk about. (I remain a single guy..aged 66) I’m glad I found you.
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