What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 34
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Professional
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last night
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was older than me. Maybe in his low forties. He was in good shape but not super athletic or anything. He had brown hair and was a little taller than me. I had known him for about 20 minutes. We met at the hotel bar while I was traveling for work. I was interested.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I travel a lot for work, sometimes when I am away for awhile my husband and I play a game he found on the internet called traveling wife roulette the website is faproulette. I roll a dice and the spot I land on tells me what to do. There are 4 levels but we have only found 3 of them. Anyway we usually stick to the first 2 levels. I go around the hotel or my room and take pictures according to what the game says I have to do and text them to my husband. It’s fun for us. Anyway, we played the first 2 levels for a while and my husband went to bed. I was bored and for amusement, I rolled level 4. Level 4 is all about hooking up with a random guy. I started thinking about it and kind of planted the idea in my own head to give it a try. So I rolled and had my assignment. I went to the hotel bar and started scouting while I sipped on a few cocktails. After a couple of drinks, the idea became more real. I decided to go through with it when a guy sat down next to me that was quite handsome and very well groomed. We started talking and he was charming. We had a drink together and I invited him to my room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got to my room it was pretty awkward. I have been married 7 years and have never considered another man. I didn’t even know how to start so I gave him a quick kiss. It was very out of the blue and very awkward. He was certainly surprised by my random kiss. He looked at me like I was weird but then started to kiss me. We made out for a while before we started to undress. I reached down and started to massage his dick. He was quite large. Very thick and noticeably longer than my husband. He was the biggest I have ever been with but he was not a pornstar or anything. I was curious and began giving him a blowjob while he fingered me. After messing around awhile he told me he didn’t have a condom. I was still unsure I wanted to go through with my assignment especially unprotected. I decided I was ok with giving him a blowjob and continued. He continued fingering me and was quite talented. I had a few moments that got better and better each time. I had enough teasing myself and decided to go through with it. I stopped giving him a blowjob and climbed on him. At that point, there was no going back. I guided him in and the first thing I noticed was his girth. It was a shock to my system. It took me a minute to adjust but I worked myself down. I can say he was big and definitely something new for me. I started to ride him. That’s when it really hit me I was really cheating. I was ashamed of myself but it was also very exciting. I have never cheated and never been the type to have a one night stand. It was a thrill of nervousness I’ve never had. He laid there for a while like he knew it was a new experience for me and let me get comfortable. He slowly started to participate. I actually found a lot of comfort in that. After a while, he started taking more control and moved us into other positions. He was very confident and quite talented in bed. Over time, the slow cautious pace I started with, had turned into ambitious thrusts. I had several intense orgasms that seemed to come easier and easier. My husband struggles to get me to orgasm once so it was a welcomed change. I will say he made sure to take care of my needs. He took a few breaks in between but made sure he ate me out or fingered me during his intermissions. Like I said he put my needs first. After his breaks, I was eager for sex. He never disappointed me. I have never had sex like that before and by the end, I was trembling with exhaustion. He told me he was close. So I told him to pull out. He obeyed. I planned to finish him with a blowjob but was not given the choice. He finished on my boobs with quite a large finale. I was turned on by his confidence. This were quite awkward for a few seconds. I looked up while he stood over me unsure of myself or what to do. The only idea I had to break the awkward moment was to finish sucking his dick. I could tell he was pleased and tasted a few small final pulses of his pride. He was impressed that I didn’t spit. I could tell he was waiting for me to. His eyes lit up when he realized I swallowed. After his excitement I decided to treat him and ran my fingers over my boobs collecting his excitement and licking it off my fingers. I have never had somebody study my motions like him. It was very intense and seductive. After cleaning my chest I thanked him for the wonderful night. He told me he had a better night than he would have imagined. I offered to let him sleep in my room but he declined. He got dressed and I walked him to the door. I thanked him again, he kissed me and grabbed my ass firmly. Then he said goodnight and left. It was late so I got in bed and tried to sleep. I was too excited, proud, and ashamed to sleep. I spent the rest of the night thinking of my actions, the incredible sex and debating if I should tell my husband.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? In the morning, I got out of bed showered, packed up my things and went to the client. I didn’t get much done. My mind has been to busy. Today the gravity of everything is weighing pretty heavy. I’m pretty ashamed of myself. I know I can’t tell my husband and am worried he is going to notice I had sex.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication, Boredom, It was a game and I played along
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I cheated on my husband
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The thrill of a one night stand. The sex was incredible and the man’s confidence.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating. I am very sore today and I am worried my husband will notice or find out.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I am proud and happy I did it. But also ashamed and regretful. It has made me think casual sex has a purpose. I have no emotional ties to the man and had amazing sex. It was just sex and I’m ok with that. If I can get over the guilt I would consider it again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? If my husband doesn’t find out it was worth it.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t know
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good place to open up in confidence
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