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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NYC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Preschool teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Jewish
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Trim My Butthole

How long ago did this hookup happen? A month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? After having no sex for two weeks, I was incredibly horny. I was snooping tinder while away at my parents home. I met this guy on tinder and I was very physically attracted to him we got to texting and he presents himself as “lover of bush and eating ass”. This turns me on especially since I have a bush (which he made seem uncommon?) We’re texting all night and we plan a meet up at a bar in his neighborhood. He’s a army officer which is totally not my thing but I knew he would be physically fit. He worked in corporate consulting, went to a prep school lmao but I def. assumed he came/had money. I felt pretty into it.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So we met a bar in his neighborhood, had a drink, and basically sized each other up. I made sure I was comfortable with him taking me back to his place. We had a drink and agreed to get the fuck out of there pretty quickly. He was way more attractive in person and I was totally feeling it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So he initiated touching my ass as we walked back to his place and we got to his apartment and we fucked twice. We made out, he ate me out, fingered me, and ate my butthole out like a madman. Texting earlier in the evening, he had mentioned a fantasy of trimming someone’s butt/bush and I was into it so I let him trim my butthole and then eat it out. He also ate my pussy for a while I gave him head, we 69’d. He made me cum eating me out and fingering me and stimulating my butthole before having sex. We had sex which was pretty physical with him really wanting to dominate me mostly from the back. We tried other things but he liked being on top of me with me lying on my stomach and choking me a little. This got him off twice. I was definitely into it the first time more than the second time because he was kinda hurting me with how he was grabbing my neck/hair/head to the point where I said verbally that he was hurting me but it was just as he was cumming. Maybe involuntary? I thought it was interesting how into butts he was. We joked about him being gay, he told me he was kind of heartbroken by a girl I listened as we cuddled and I massaged him. He was not really what I expected but the experience was positive. And I didn’t feel regret or bad feelings about it after.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I actually went home still not feeling completely sexually satisfied… I had phone sex with another person I’ve been hooking up with and got myself off! Lmao I said I was horny! I didn’t feel regret or emptiness, sometimes I do feel this way about hookups but this was really exciting for me as I had never been so open/ down to have sex with someone I meet on Tinder. I was turned off by him hurting my neck a little and offering me the condoms as a souvenir. Disgusting!!! He wasn’t my type. I knew that going into it. I was leaving the next morning back to NYC and I had lots of flings in the works as well as a casual fuck buddy who prefers to call us lovers. I moved on with my life pretty quickly and didn’t think about him again until my butthole hairs started growing back and itching me. Lol. I decided not to text him that despite part of me wanting to let him know. To my surprise About 2-3 weeks later I got a text from him. I asked him why he was texting me and he told me he was “stroking”. He shared another fantasy that really got me off. Jewish girl sees uncut penis for the first time. I engaged in this sexting fantasy with him because I’m totally fascinated by uncut penis right now. He was unit and apparently decided to get cut as an adult. I do not understand this but maybe when I’m at my parents’ house again I’ll see him.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend about it and she was like wtf he trimmed your butthole why???!!!!

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Him trimming my butthole and eating it out.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? him somewhat involuntarily? Hurting my neck as he was cumming the second time we had sex.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think what we did was liberating and pleasurable. It kind of normalized the experience that people are meeting people on tinder to fuck. Immmediately. Lmao!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had a wide range of casual sex experiences some positive some negative, and some neutral. For me managing my expectations and really knowing what I want really makes an impact on how pos/neg the experience is. dropping expectations of monogamy. Being in a healthy place emotionally. Not feeling lonely, or bad about myself actually feeling sexy and living an authentically dope life.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s cool

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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