What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 39
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Australia
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Academic
What’s your current relationship status?
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2-3 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It began with my answering a CL ad S posted. We swapped pics, chatted enough to know we were probably well suited for each other and met within days.
S is a real estate agent in his late 20s who doesn’t like real estate or people. He’s well-educated, intelligent, 6’2″ ish, trim, well-built, strong. Cute cleft in his chin, sharp dresser, olive skin, dark intense eyes. Handsome in a rugged but clean cut way. Strong arms, hair on his chest, 7.5’ish thick uncut cock.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began at my house. Definitely involved planning; kids stayed overnight at their grandparents’ while I was supposedly playing sports.
I was excited and a little surprised at how nervous I was. It was the first time I’d invited a fuck buddy to my own home instead of meeting at their place or at a mutually agreed spot. It felt risky.
I spent a lot of time tidying and posing the house. Felt a bit like I was getting it ready for a viewing! Then, ten minutes before he was due, I showered and frantically tried to find something suitable to wear (despite the fact we’d probably soon be naked, I cared about first impressions). I couldn’t find my hair dryer so stuck my head near the heater! The things we do for sex.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? S kissed me right after stepping in at the front door, so the ice was broken straight away. I was still breathless from rushing around tidying so I wasn’t quite in the moment, but I appreciated knowing he was attracted to me. We sat on the sofa together, chatted a little with drinks. He kept interrupting by kissing me deep and long and touching me, saying appreciative things about my body. We didn’t last long before we headed for the bedroom.
We’re both confident, dominant people but I’d had a few fuck buddies recently who made me crave some dominance for a change. S was perfect. He handled my body like I was his personal fuck toy – not asking permission, not being tentative, pulling me down and across the bed like it was nothing, moving my limbs where he wanted me, and running his hands and fingers all over me and into me wherever he wanted. It felt like we were equally and completely into it, and enjoying each other. I always felt in control in terms of him backing off, changing tack, pausing or refraining, if desired.
We fucked almost constantly for five hours, with chat breaks to recover. He came three times – once in/on my mouth and breasts, twice in my vagina using condoms just before cumming. I came multiple times, lost count.
I sucked his cock twice, taking my time, enjoying everything. The second time he stopped me, despite saying I clearly knew what I was doing and that he was thoroughly enjoying it, to fuck my cunt. When I had him in my mouth I gagged a little. He didn’t go down on me. Hopefully, that isn’t a hangup for him because I love oral sex. I’ll find out tomorrow when we meet again.
He was in and out of my cunt constantly, lots of hot kissing and stroking my ass, thighs, breasts, stomach. The bed was creaking but I hardly noticed, just as we barely noticed five hours passing. The entire world had contracted to us and our bodies fucking in and out of various positions. He had me with my legs in the air, leaning above me in missionary, really deep thrusting hitting my cervix, then with my thigh across my body sandwiching his cock tight with my pussy lips. Also with my ass slightly raised, on a pillow, on my back and pulled towards his cock, with him sitting on his haunches. Me off the side of the bed, him standing, fucking my mouth or my cunt. He kept pounding really deeply, banging my cervix sometimes. It felt mildly uncomfortable sometimes but also a huge turn on that he was in me so deep, and when we changed position or I got more wet, it was a non-issue.
He was exactly what I needed. Ever so slightly rough with tugging my hair, pinning my hands down when his mouth on my neck and ears felt too good to bear. He loved that I hadn’t shaved my cunt. He couldn’t get enough of my ass, stomach, and thighs. He kept grunting with satisfaction and saying how much he was enjoying me and what a turn on my body was. I loved it. Who wouldn’t?!
We talked about our domestic situations, families, work, sexual histories and politics. I’m firmly left-wing. He’s a libertarian Trump supporter. We found each other intelligent and likable with similar temperaments but amusingly misguided, I think. It made for good conversation and the sex felt even more taboo since I’d never have chosen to fuck him usually once I’d heard about his politics. Sexually we were very much in tune with each other.
Just after midnight when I thought we were winding down, lying and chatting, he said he had to fuck me one more time before he left.
I wrapped the white bedding around me to walk him to the door. He opened me up to look one last time and said how much he loved my body. We kissed, knowing we were definitely going to have to meet again and said bye.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt brilliant. No soreness in my cunt because I’d been so turned on the entire time. Pleasantly sore in some joints but that was just a nice reminder of the night before. The experience was quite close to being one of the five best fucks I’ve ever had. He certainly was thorough.
I was a little disturbed and horrified at having enjoyed so much someone whose politics I abhor. But in a fuck buddy, it seems almost like an asset, since it means there’s a clear ceiling to emotional involvement, so we can focus on sex and enjoying each other in the moment. Or maybe I’m justifying because I want to fuck him again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, except the Casual Sex Project.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His dominance and confidence around my body combined with an attentiveness to my desires, his creativity with positions, and his amazing stamina. His verbal affirmations of his enjoyment of me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That he’s right-wing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It just further cements my growing confidence in my attractiveness, which was badly needed. Bodies of all types can be desired, enjoyed, lusted after, and nearly everyone has sexual needs.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We’re meeting again tomorrow night. I’ve bought the morning after pill in advance because I’m not yet safe on the regular pill (though I’ve started) and he finds condoms desensitizing. He’s bringing a printout of an STI test done a week ago.
I want nothing in the way of him cumming repeatedly in my cunt till it drips down my thighs.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. It’s liberating to so easily be able to choose who, when, where and for how long I want it to continue. It’s taught me a lot about my sexual preferences and about how diverse the set of people are who I can have great sex with, and the different ways people approach sex. It’s bolstered my confidence in my body and enabled me to be more honest with strangers than I ever have felt able to with long-term partners. And it’s made me realize how much fear-mongering and propaganda are used to police women’s bodies and desires. Because of this stigma and potential repercussions on my loved ones, I choose to only reveal details about casual sex here, but to no one else on my life, which is saddening.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Brilliant. Educational.
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