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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? engineer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Two different girls in one night

How long ago did this hookup happen? few months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The first one was an athletic average height blue eyed, blonde hair girl with really nice legs and at least ten years younger than me. The second girl was a very intelligent brunette, voluptuous, and sexy. I worked out with the blonde girl once a week or so for a few months but just as friends. She was attractive but wasn’t feeling it beyond friends. The second one I had just started dating and we had sex a few times already. She was really kinky and enjoyed anal sex. I liked both of them before the hookup, I wasn’t sure about any serious relationships at the time, with anyone really.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had some friends over. I got really drunk as was everyone else. This was not planned. The blonde girl wanted to see my room so I obliged and we shut the door and I locked it. We knew exactly what was going to happen next. I was also high and drunk, which for me basically means my sex drive goes through the roof.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After I closed the door we started kissing each other hard and I grabbed her ass. She was wearing some really tight jeans and I unzipped them and pulled them down. I lifted her up and threw her on my bed and just went for it. I started having sex with her on my bed with her pants halfway down from the side. Then I got on my back and she started blowing me really hard. I came in no time and she swallowed it all. I said we should get back to the party. The whole thing was probably 5 minutes. Later that night a few hours later, the brunette comes into my room and takes off all her clothes and locks the door. She goes and sits on my bed and is fairly faded. I start making out with her and she asks if I can do her in the ass because she’s been craving it for a while. Though it sounded odd, I am a fan of anal sex. So I got some lube out and went for it. She gave me a BJ before this to get it hard and liked to deep throat and gag, a first for me. I came in her ass in no time from missionary position and passed out.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We dated for another few weeks till feelings started to accumulate. Though I got along with her alright, my friends didn’t like her much. There was also something just off about the whole situation. I used my gut feeling and just got out of it when feelings became involved on her end. I still see the blonde around and we are friends. We hooked up one more time a couple months later, but again went back to being friends. They’re both great in their own way, but it was just a party phase I was going through.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? This is a difficult question to verbally say something. I figure if a female comes into your bedroom, locks the door and takes her clothes off, that’s a yes.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. It seems Ive gained a reputation in the last few months after breaking up with the ex gf.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Two hot girls in one night, though not at the same time. It’s the closest I’ve come to a three some.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Again knowing there’s no long term potential.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I still want to have a threesome with two women, just to see what it’s like. It confirmed I enjoy anal sex and being deep throated- and also that girls like this exist.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was fun at the time. I would do it again, but maybe communicate earlier with both of them about my intentions just so it’s clear. I think it was evident very early on, but honesty and clear intentions are the best ways to proceed (in my experience).

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It seems the older I get the worse it gets. In college I had a couple girlfriends in 4 years, and no hookups. Then had my heart broken, afterwards in next 4 years, I had maybe 5-10 sexual relationships, lots of hookups, then I tried to be good and had a gf again for a while and few hookups, and then it was back to 10 girls/year until the next girlfriend, and then it got really bad after this last one and already banged 20 girls this year, most of them drunken party nights, and some I dated for 1-3 dates each. It just seems easier and I’m more confident about casual sex as I’ve aged. 15 years ago I would never have imagined myself to have had as many partners as I have had. I’ve asked myself if I could go back and erase sexual encounters with the one night or going nowhere girls, and I don’t think it added anything to my life. I could have easily just jerked off at night and gone to sleep and outcome would have been same. It does increase chance of STDs (which I’ve had to get screened way more often)- hard to use a condom when you’re drunk, and also a few pregnancy scares. I enjoyed the unique memories (anal first time hanging out, two girls in one night, rim job experience, anal beads girl, coked up cheerleader, sex in the woods, wedding crasher style, etc), but the rest all run together, and I probably knew at the beginning they were going nowhere. I can confidently say if alcohol and marijuana didn’t exist, my number would be closer to 10-15 over 15-20 years.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s like a journal, but you get to read other journals as well- and find that we’re all fairly similar.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!