What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Socal
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Actress/model
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Rarely attracted to men, mostly attracted to women, zero romantic interest in men.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 44…I though it was less but I counted them up….41 girls (five longish girlfriends, seven shorter dating relationships, 29 one night stands or 2-3 hookups), 3 guys.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? several
Typical One Night Stand with Hot Girl
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last weekend
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This a very TYPICAL casual encounter, which is why I am writing about it. I went to a mixed WLA club alone (sometimes I go alone, sometimes with another girl or two), took in who was on the dance floor and at the bar, flirted a little with a girl or two, and like twenty guys eyed me or tried to chat me up (I wasn’t interested, and I can be cold as hell because it gets old after awhile), and this particular girl was dancing with another girl whom I thought she was VERY hot. I had never seen her before, and I am pretty sure. Slender, my age or maybe younger, tight dress, blue eyes, brunette, very spontaneous. She went to the bar for a drink and I started talking to her. Line number 23 is “I hope this isn’t embarrassing, but are you with her?….I’d love to dance with you a little…” And she responded she’d rather have a drink than dance, so we had a drink and talked. I could tell she was into me (which, to be blunt, is a common experience since I am, sorry how immodest this is, really hot), we danced some and talked some and drank some…
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well, I wanted her, came on to her, danced, we made out some on the dance floor, I asked her if she wanted to go home with me and she said she did, and we took an Uber to SM, giving the guy a show, I guess, because we were all over each other in the back seat.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out on my bed. Excellent kisser. I mean, super excellent. We were both already hot for each other. I get really dripping sometimes and this was an example. I was definitely dom, and took her clothes off, and her bra and sucked on her breasts and she moaned softly which is a HUGE turn-on obviously. I gave her oral and after a minute or two found her rhythm and she had a rockstar orgasm and French-kissed her juice off my mouth. Then she went down on me and I came right away. She was VERY good. We made out more, and she pushed my head a little, which was funny and I went down on her again and finger fucked her with the pillow under her, and she came for like five minutes straight…incredible intense coming. We relaxed and then we started gently kissing and she fingered me while I gave myself an orgasm. Then we collapsed into sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one.
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we woke up she had a little hangover, and she seemed embarrassed. I texted her yesterday but she hasn’t responded. To be crude, I would love to have sex with her again, but no way is a relationship between us likely. I avoid emotional attachments to girls who aren’t predominantly lesbian.
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, attraction to partner(s), power/dominance
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high.
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high.
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent.
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody yet.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Incredible sex, and how she kept orgasming
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I think she was a little embarrassed the next morning…not clear if she wants to hook up with me again.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, it was fairly typical
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? As I have said before on this site, I am addicted, more or less, to casual sex with pretty girls, and yet I am more and more aware afterward that the lack of emotional content is unfulfilling. Don’t get me wrong though, I love the sex before and when it is happening, and find myself on the prowl later on even though I am aware that intimacy is something part of me needs.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Ever since my late teens I have been having sex with girls, and even when I had a girlfriend I would after a few months start cheating on her. Part of it is a huge sex drive. Part of it is that girls are generally available to me, because I am attractive and so they say rather sexy in a femme way (and also because in Socal there are so many girls that are having sex with, or want to have sex with in the future, other girls, or at least think they do). When I see a hot girl I want to talk to her, look at her, and if I sense she might be into me, I get a huge rush and want to come on to her. So in a way my reactions are out of control. I want to be married to the right woman some day and have kids but I know my sex addiction is a BIG obstacle to that happening. The point is, I’m not alone I know in this, and I’m pretty sure that the easy availability of sex (for girls or guys) is in the way of deeper relationships between people…so probably for society this is a bad thing.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love having someplace to explain about this core part of my life, anonymously.
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