by Andrea

Gender: Male
Age: 43
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Italy
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Manager
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What best describes your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Traditional
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None


How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

How would you best classify this hookup? Extramarital Affair

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She asked me the FB friendship some month ago, just because friends of her had chatted about how handsome they think I am. She was curious to see my photos. I remembered to have seen her at a wedding party, years before, but she did not remember about me. So we began chatting, it was very nice, and decided to meet for a coffee. She’s very pretty in an unconventional way, and very sexy, but i did not plan anything about hooking up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had hooked up at her home, but i had to go work, so we delayed everything to some days later. I battled a lot, because it was the first time in 14 years that I was going to betray my wife, and I was not so persuaded to do it. Anyway, we planned to meet up some days after and we went to an hotel. Everything very natural I have to say, even if I was very nervous.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was very anxious, and did not get erection. She was very understanding, we were already naked in the bed, I wanted to make oral to her, but she sat over me and she began moving, on my dick, saying that I just had to relax. After a while my dick began appreciating it a lot and we made love twice, I surely came, maybe she came once, but everything was very sexy to me, even have her working to make the dick getting hard. It was not great sex, I was very anxious, but I have good memories about it. We had a lot of speaking, also dirty talking while making love, and it was very funny, friendly, nice. After we had a shower and smoked a cigarette.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None, I had with me condoms with me, but we did not use, we neither asked anything to each other.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? She’s very sexy, I find her very pretty, and everything seemed to be so natural.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? No, anything but a glass of wine

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We’re still meeting, sometimes, and chatting on line, the affair is still going on. I think sooner or later it will stop, but I want to hook up with her some other time.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody, it’s the first time I refer to this affair.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No, I do not regret this hookup

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The BEST thing, and I’m referring to the very first time we made love, was the way she take care of me while I was anxious and I was not having erection, it was very nice. The WORST thing is that I have not had an erection immediately and I’ve been anxious all time

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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