by Camila

Gender: Female
Age: 26
Race/ethnicity: Latina
Current location: Chile
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Teacher
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Unexpected

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at work, he was my boss for a few time. When i first met him (he wasn’t my boss) i thought he was attractive, but he was too short (we are almost the same height). I never really felt any sexual tension between us, we used to have lunch together with the rest of the people at the office, and we laughed a lot, and share the same kind of humor, but that was all, just a cool guy from work.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When the project we were working on finished we decided (the hole office) to make a party and he offered his place. So we all met there one night, when it was really late and the party was getting over he offered me to stay in his house coz he knew i lived very far from his place, and he had many rooms available. When everyone else was gone, we kept drinking and talking and having a really good time, and at some point i felt sleepy so he took me to his room and told me he was going to sleep on one of the other rooms, but first he was going to clean up some things. After a moment he went into the room again and ask me if it was ok with me if we sleep together coz he didn’t know where was more bed linen for the other room. I told him it was ok with me, still not knowing what was about to happen.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took of his clothes and get into the bed really close to me, i could feel his breathing on my neck, he put his arm around me and slowly get every time closer. We kissed and he started to take off my clothes. We looked each other kind of trying to understand what was hapenning, any of us was expecting it. He masturbated me and then did me oral. I can remember he telling me something like he wanted me to relax and have pleasure. And I did. Then I got in top and then he, and then we tried doggie style, and we actually switched a lot positions. We fell asleep and then did it another two times. The next day i get out of the place while he was still sleeping, after trying to get him up for a very long time, such a deep sleeper gosh!

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? It was great but I didn’t orgasm, he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? As it was unexpected we never talk about any of these things. But we used condoms.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I think I just went horny.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had a lot drinks but were not really drunk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The day after we had a very awkward conversation in which we agreed  to remain friends. And since that night have passed two years now and yes we have built a wonderful friendship and keep having sex occasionally. And yet I got confused about it all for a moment, I’m happy now.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends, and they were as surprised as I was. And they are still trying to understand how is that we can have sex, be friends and not want anything else like a more romantic relationship.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Absolutely no! This was the begining of a real good friendship.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best is that it became from just one night to a real friendship. The worst, maybe, that i couldn’t orgasm that night (none of the 3 times we did it).

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I’m kind of proud of this friendship, we have get to know each other so well, and we can feel the unconditional support of each other, we sure love each other (as friends) and i didn’t know something like this was actually possible while having sex, and no falling in love.

For more of Camila, check out her blog Diario de una Solterona de Veintitantos.

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