What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 64
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Unexpected bathroom experience
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Random encounter
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met this girl walking down the street while I was with a group of friends at around 6:30 pm. She caught my attention very quickly and began making intense eye contact immediately. I approached her group of friends and noticed she was very pretty: well dressed, blonde, short and busty. We were both obviously intoxicated.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After a few minutes of talking she began stroking my shoulder and holding a very lascivious gaze with me. I suddenly became aware that she had sexual intentions but I was a with friends and was supposed to meet a girl in an hour or so. I was very charmed by her aggression and forthrightness, which is uncommon in southern girls.
Within another five minutes she leaned into me and whispered in my eye, “Would you like to do go to the bathroom” I became immediately aroused but a bit anxious as well. What if someone walks in? Are my friends going to judge me? What if she has an STD? She sensed my apprehension and responded with “you have a few more seconds to decide.” I nodded a bit hesitantly and we walked into a bar and headed back to the bathroom. As we began walking she asked, “Do you have a wife or girlfriend?” I smiled and said no. She responded, “I don’t believe you.”
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we arrived at the men’s room she pressed me against the wall outside of the door, before we could walk in. She moved my hand under her dress, where I felt her moist panties. I pushed her body back and through the mens door, where another man was using the urinal. We ignored him and moved to the stall.
Once inside I pulled her dress over her head and sat her on the toilet and began licking her pussy though her panties. She immediately pulled her dress up over her head, threw it aside and desperately demanded ,”fuck me now” and spread her legs. I pulled her panties aside and unzipped my zipper and began thrusting away. About a minute or so later, I felt myself about to come and pulled it out. She leaped off the toilet, got on her knees and frantically sucked the cum out of me. We quickly cleaned up and walked back outside. I asked for her phone number once outside and she said, “Thank you sexy man”, got her phone out to call her friends, and walked away.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After she walked away I was elated, but somewhat dissapointed I did not get her name or phone number. I immediately bragged about what had happened to my friends, who responded with disbelief, handshakes and high fives. I began worrying briefly about an STD, especially given her obvious nymphomaniac behavior, but decided it would be worth it.
The next day I was still charmed by the experience but oddly disconcerted about it. Did she have mental problems? Was this normal behavior? Was she taking out issues on me and I participated? I brushed them off, mainly.
The biggest impact it has had on my sexual life is now I actively seek similar sorts of experiences with women. A month later at a wedding, I asked a girl to go to the bathroom, and she obliged.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Most of my male friends. They reacted with disbelief and envy.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Immense, quick sexual satisfaction. Confidence boost after a divorce.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Uncertainty over her motives.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I am now more willing to have sex with strangers in the bathroom.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I really don’t know or care.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Pretty cool.
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