What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Give or take 45
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? ~4 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was about 4 years my senior – about 6’2”, covered in tattoos, very cute, and a bad boy. We’d never hooked up but we hung out in the same group of friends.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was on a break from school. I forget exactly why I came over but we hung out, smoked cigarettes, and watched TV for most of the week that I was home. We were two lonely souls who found similarities and felt comfortable with each other. It happened the day before I was to leave and head back to school.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I don’t know what came over us. He was stalling my leaving by hugging me and all of the sudden he was kissing me. A deep, passionate kissing. I felt all of my reservations about him dissipate completely. I was butter is his arms. He easily slipped off my shirt and bra, kissing my neck and moving down, he lingered at my perky nipples. Before I knew it, he was taking off my pants and thong. He admired me for a moment then started to kiss my thighs. I was shaking with anticipation, wetter than I ever remember being. After eating me out he came up and kissed me, dripping in my own juices. I reciprocated, teasing him with my tongue. He took me by the hair and pulled me on top of him. He entered me in one swift motion – all 8 inches of him made me shriek. He covered my mouth and got on top of me. He fucked me harder than I had ever been fucked before. Missionary, doggy style, on the side, and back to missionary. Just before he came he wrapped both hands around my neck, held me down, and choked me. I had never been choked before and it was an amazing, ecstatic feeling. We both came pretty quickly after that, with me squirting all over him.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We collapsed, giggling a little. He went to the bathroom to dispose of the condom and when he came back he pulled me in close to cuddle for a bit. We shared a cigarette and then I had to leave. He walked me outside to my car and kissed me deeply. I left happy and satisfied. With me back at school, we kept talking and he decided he wanted to come visit for a weekend. It was an amazing weekend filled with drinking, good food, and great sex. We talked a bit after but slowly drifted apart as friends who live far away from each other tend to do.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A mutual friend who had also slept with him. She asked if we used condoms and if I got tested. I replied yes and that I was clean.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was spontaneous, there were no expectations, and it was fantastic.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve loved sex from the very first time I had it. I think it’s important for people, especially women, to feel safe and comfortable to explore their desires. While I had not realized the sheer number of people I managed to sleep with in a fairly small amount of time, I don’t regret any of it because I enjoyed myself. It’s important to be safe with regards to STDs and pregnancy as well as consent. We need to educate people more on sex. It’s a ridiculous taboo.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great. Goes to show how many people enjoy casual sex and are comfortable enough with themselves to talk about it. I’m pretty open with my experiences and it’s nice to basically read/write erotica.
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