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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? mid 20s
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? PR
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity?  Homoflexible | Prefer women sexually, exclusively lesbian romantically
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 29
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Unexpected FFM Threesome in Uni

How long ago did this hookup happen? Oct 2013

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was casually ‘with’ Erin. We met at the Uni we both were attending at the time. We actually started talking while she was dating Jay – at first he was sort of fine with it – they ended up breaking up a few weeks later. Anyways, she’s short – 5’3″, long dirty blonde hair, great butt and overall fit as she was an athlete. Jay is Erin’s ex and he’s a typical joe shmoe kind of dude. Brown hair, average height, nice guy and from what I heard from Erin not too sexually experienced (1 previous partner before her).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Absolutely spur of the moment.

As Jay and Erin were still ‘friends’ post break-up (a month or maybe a month and a half prior), we ended up visiting his party while in town. Erin, a mutual friend of our, and myself drove down to the area (major college town) and partied at Jay’s old flat with his housemates and a crowd of other folks, as well. This was the first time I met Jay in-person, but we had spoken on the phone, and of course we knew of each other beforehand.

He was a cool guy and there didn’t seem to be any hard feelings regarding the recent break-up and such. As this was Erin’s first time with a girl, I think he was taking it all in and didn’t place much weight on it. Also, we were not seriously dating and we both agreed to have a very casual and almost open relationship.

So, Erin and I got in a disagreement during the party because I had gone out on a sort-of last minute catch-up/date with an old friend while in the area. That lead to Erin getting drunk and angry about this, causing Jay to hang around her and try to make sure she was okay. We all were drinking and so tension was fairly high. I ended up telling Jay that he was better off without her drama and went upstairs in Jay’s old room to crash. Probably 30 minutes later, Erin came upstairs and woke me up – we laid together on one of the three beds in the open room. I asked the whereabouts of our friend and then we proceeded to talk about our disagreement. I mentioned that Jay was a good guy and told her she should really think about dating him again. We were joking around about this and I asked if he had left the party yet. She wasn’t sure so I rang his phone from hers and drunkenly asked his whereabouts. He ended up coming upstairs to see where we were, accompanied by his two friends (the actual people who lived in the room we were crashing in). The lights turned off and so Erin and I were one one bed, next to Jay and his friend on the middle bed and his other friend on the third. They were all pushed together but were at varying heights. Everyone seemed to be going to sleep and Erin and I proceeded to make out and feel each other up. We were trying to be quiet.. but we were drunk… The next thing I know is that Jay’s hand ended up near Erin’s head and I think he may have been sucking on his fingers? I started to unbutton her pants and tease her through her underwear as we kissed. I remember looking over her as Jay slid off his mattress and behind her. Erin’s left hand seemed to be moving around – unbuttoning his pants. The next thing I hear is Jay’s one friend angrily asking what the fuck we thought we were doing. We all got quiet and didn’t move for a minute or so and then proceeded to kiss very quietly. Jay’s pants were coming off with his belt rattling around and then his friend freaked out and said there was no way we were going to fuck in his bedroom and not include him. He told us all to get out. We just grew quiet as if going to bed would be the solution but he pressed further and demanded we all leave. SO, without a place to crash-at probably 3:30 in the morning, we realized we would have to walk to Jay’s flat across campus. We looked for our friend that had ridden down with us but couldn’t find her or our things. So we just left and figured we would return the next morning and hopefully the guys would forget about it.

We actually walked for 20 or so minutes and laughed a handful of times at how awkward and yet hilarious that all was. Erin asked if I was okay with what happened (with Jay) and I said I had no problem with it. There was no mention of furthering anything however. The cold air sobered us up and we got back to his dorm but his roommate was actually asleep in the top bunk. I don’t remember if he blew up a mattress or if there was actually already an extra mattress on the floor. But Jay gave us the mattress on the ground and then plopped himself in the bottom bunk of his bunk bed.

Erin and I were still turned on from earlier so we actually started making out again in plain sight of Jay nearby. We fooled around for a few minutes and then Jay joined us from his bunk.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Erin was between us both, with Jay on the left and myself on her right. I proceeded to kiss her and then take her pants off to go down on her. Jay had the same idea and he and I both ended up near her legs. I started fingering her and he joined me inside of her. It was surprisingly not awkward – probably all of the alcohol and excitement – and so after a good amount of foreplay I went down on Erin, pushing Jay’s hand out of the way. He proceeded to kiss her and when I looked up he was choking her lightly. She really enjoyed being choked and I remember snickering at the sight of them obviously falling back into old habits. Erin told me the next day that Jay while he was holding her neck he was commenting on how hot it was to watch me eat her out.

Erin was stroking jay’s dick at this point and he was more than ready to fuck. He turned Erin on her side and entered her from behind (which I found out was their favorite position). I was kissing Erin and playing with her boobs and rubbing her clit while he fucked her. This continued for some time and she had an orgasm (not sure if this was real actually – later on, she mentioned that she would have to fake orgasms to get Jay off to hurry it up. She never faked an orgasm when we were alone however). I went down on Erin again and she continued to give him a handjob. She orgasmed again– her whole body convulsing this time , and then she was too sensitive to touch. I laid next to her on her right and Jay and I started kissing overtop of Erin. This happened a few times and then Jay decided to go down on me. It was hard to concentrate because Erin was so shocked by this that she was actually asking if he was good while he was eating me out. She mentioned that he had never gone down on her and that she was beside herself that he was actually doing that. I guided his head in the right direction, but being new and also a guy, I knew I wasn’t going to get off. I enjoyed it nonetheless. I begged her to stop talking to me about this at that moment and so we continued to make out and she was very into rough nipple play. He ended up behind her again while we made out and a few times I would stop to kiss Jay to include him as well.. and then he actually hopped his body over her to get behind me. I was a bit shocked and wasn’t into the idea of him screwing me the same way as they just had so I topped Erin – making out with her and fingering her once again. Jay then made his way behind me and proceeded to rub his dick into me. I had not slept with a man in quite a few years and knew I was definitely going to be tight to enter. I remember kissing Erin and saying, “Holy shit, I don’t think he’s going to fit, but I was wrong.” He started fucking me, slowly at first and then progressing faster. I actually couldn’t concentrate on pleasing Erin too much but we were kissing and I was moaning in her ear. She was beyond excited by this. She was totally shocked by it all and playing with my clit as he fucked me. He stiffened and at the last minute pulled out and came all over the bed. At this moment his roommate turned over in his bed….he had been watching I guess. I hadn’t even thought to ask for him to put a condom on. Erin had been on the pill. At this point, I was so turned on and ready to orgasm because Erin was working me really hard with her hand. Jay got squeamish that he had cum all over the bed and actually proceeded to grab paper towels and try to wipe it up! I was like dude, stop! Erin and I tried to continue to fool around but he had killed the mood.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? So Erin and I fell asleep together on the mattress on the ground and Jay went back to the low bunk of his bunk beds (roommate on the top bunk). Prior to us falling asleep, we both snuck out of the room to visit the bathroom and laughed at the craziness of it all. The next day Jay actually had to drive us back to his old flat where the party was. The ride over was pretty awkward as he was being quite weird. Erin and I were completely fine–shocked but way chill with it all. A few weeks later Erin ended up telling me that Jay felt pretty bad about the whole night as he was “religious” and wrestling with this casual, group sex event. Erin and I talked about other threesomes and we both said we would be open to another, but unsure with who. Jay was obviously out of the question. Erin and I ended on a weird note – I decided to cut things off because she wanted to be more exclusive. Jay and Erin hooked up at least one more time after we ended things. I don’t speak to either of them but would have no problems running into them if it ever happened.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To each other and mutual friends

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I always wanted to try a FMF threesome and it happened very organically – so it was very sexy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not getting off – Jay’s awkwardness

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I’m more for it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I haven’t had casual sex on a whole very much, but I’m fine with when it occurs. I like when things can transpire naturally and not forced online chit chat beforehand.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I really dig it. I like the concept but I want to know more about the data that’s collected. I’d like to see it used in more than what’s currently being written in the editorial section.

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