by Nial Cash
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Musician
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Unexpected Hookup At A Party
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was very petite & cute – around 5ft, slim, C cup breasts, blonde hair & blue eyes. I knew her very well as she was an ex of mine, we had been together for 2 years & experienced everything that comes along with that. I felt generally good about her, we hooked up quite frequently after we split because the sex was good & we still enjoyed each other’s company although we hadn’t seen each other for a while.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We bumped into each other at a party that some mutual friends were throwing, I wasn’t expecting her to be there but it wasn’t an issue in any way. I was actually trying to pull another girl that I’d had my eye on for a while but she was getting a lot of attention so I decided to leave it & just enjoy the party. The party was coming to an end so I decided to get a cab home with one of my friends, my ex asked to hop in with us, I was still totally unassuming at this point. My friend got in the front of the cab & it was me with my ex in the back. Suddenly I felt her hand rubbing my cock through my jeans, this made me instantly hard, she whispered in my ear that it turned her on that I still got hard for her & did I want to come back to hers? Invitation accepted! I got out at her place & gave my friend in the front some cash to pay the driver, he gave me a look because he obviously knew what was up!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Her housemates were away so we started passionately kissing in the living room as soon as we were inside, we had done this many times before so it felt familiar and good. I took off her top and started to play with her tits, sucking them and groping them the way that she liked, this felt really hot and we were both horny. I slipped my hand up her skirt so that I could play with her pussy & clit, she was really wet so I took off her underwear and ate her pussy. I was feeling quite dirty so I started to rim her, she responded well to this so I continued the oral pleasure whilst fingering her pussy & ass, she came quite loudly and her pussy was soaking, this made me feel really good. The oral action continued with her taking my jeans off and giving me head. No lie, she gives the best head I have ever had, deep and sloppy with lots of gagging and spitting. The dirty talk was hot with both of us saying what we were going to do to each other, turning us on even more. When it came to fucking we didn’t bother using a condom, we hadn’t for ages as we both knew & trusted each other. We fucked missionary on the couch for a bit then switched to doggy style where I pounded her hard, she was being quite loud as no one else was home and she came through the penetration. I was close to cumming so I let her know, she said she wanted it in her mouth so I pulled out and she sucked me off until I started to cum. I hadn’t had sex in a while so it got quite messy with a lot of it ending up on her face, she didn’t mind though & cleaned the lot up.
She asked if I wanted to stay over so we had a cup of tea & went upstairs to bed, we were both quite tired so fell asleep naked and spooning, it felt natural and good.
We had sex again a couple more times in the morning, it wasn’t as hot but we still had a good time giving each other oral and a good seeing to with a few more orgasms.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day neither of us felt bad about what happened & both enjoyed the experience. I think at the time we were both still quite caught up on each other but now, years later we can be friends, although we don’t hang out & live in different parts of the country.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t tell anyone specifically but my friend knew something had happened.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It felt absolutely amazing & was some of the hottest sex I’ve ever had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Entanglement of feeling & uncertainty of how to proceed.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really, I think in hindsight you could pick things apart but I don’t think casual sex is a bad thing at all.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I do still think about this girl sometimes & she pops up in my dreams, she was the best sexual partner I’ve had by some way.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think if I could separate the feelings from the act that would be a good thing but I guess that’s part of what makes it enjoyable.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting to read & gain a different perspective.
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