What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Brunette, 5ft 5inch tall, slim build, permanent pout.
Known each other for 19 years, we are friends through family.
I had always thought she was very attractive, have had many curious thoughts, but no opportunity presented itself before.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Innocent beginning by offering to share a taxi home from a party hosted by family, of whom she was a close friend. Both of us had had a few but not many drinks. Had spent all evening chatting about all matters, she had informed me that she had not had a relationship for several months. In the taxi as we approached her apartment, I said I’ll wait till you get inside before we drive off, to which she suggested, if you’re worried why not come in and make sure I’m safe till morning. Well I didn’t need to be asked twice.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The door wasn’t even closed over as we started kissing, then she pushed me against the door and started to loosen my trousers, reached in and pulled out my cock, she stroked it whilst kissing me and as I reached to move her thong to the side, she dropped to her knees and buried my cock down her throat. We moved onto the floor, and I managed to get two fingers in her pussy, pinky finger in her ass, and my thumb circling on her clit, moving my fingers in and out. After a short time she gently eased my hand away and guided my cock inside her. We fucked along the hallway, then onto the staircase, and up into the bedroom. She was very intense, but very confident in what she liked and didn’t. We lay for a short time before she asked me to join her in the shower, where she had “attachment” for the shower head to give her an intense pulsing spray which she directed to her clit, I was standing behind her just holding her in my arms, then she whispered asking me to fuck her in the ass. Without hesitation I again put my finger in first, then two fingers, before finally easing my cock in her ass, whilst she was still showering her clit with pulsating blasts of water from the shower head. I was inside her ass when she started to almost convulse as she hit orgasm. It was a fantastic evening and the start of a casual relationship that suits us both when in need.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning, we both woke and just smiled at each other before starting to get ourselves together for the day ahead. No regrets whatsoever other than why had we waited so long, We both have busy schedules, but we are in a position where we can call each other if we have a “need”.
Also we have started to try restraints, which we are both now really into.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex has been fantastic
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We should have hooked up years earlier.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? yep, in future if you have an urge, give it a try or you will regret waiting
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Its not just anyone for the sake of adding to your tally.
It has to be the right person at the right time
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? love reading others experiences
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