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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Primarily heterosexual with occasional gay fantasies that I have acted upon.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 45
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1995

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? “Barb” was a friend of a friend that I met at an overnight social gathering related to an athletic event. One might say that she was a groupie of sorts. I was not attracted to her at all, as she was a little overweight and not particularly pleasing to the eye. It was her great sense of humor and outgoing personality that hooked me. We flirted in passing conversation several times throughout the night, but really didn’t engage in longer conversation at all.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was standing at a food buffet when I suddenly felt two breasts push against my back and a hand reach around, grabbing my cock through sweatpants (I wasn’t wearing any underwear, making the sensation more intense). A woman voice huskily whispered into me ear, “I am so hungry for a hot dog”. I laughed and turned around to see Barb. She gave a big devilish grin and went about her business filling her plate. Me? I had to keep my plate at waist level to conceal my raging hardon.

Just when I thought that I was special to her, I caught Bard doing the same thing to another friend of mine. I think that she liked the shock value that it gave to the men she “molested”. Of course, none one complained. Anyhow, I didn’t think much more of the groping, but did flirt with Barb with more intensity whenever she passed by.

The night of drinking and laughing with others whittled to an end. Only Barb and I were left. I stated that i was going for a swim before retreating to my camping bed inside a minivan. Barb asked to come along, to which i was hoping that she would all along. For a woman who had grabbed my cock earlier in the evening, she seemed surprised that I disrobed in front of her and dived into the moonlit water. She followed in her underwear. I did not make a move initially, but did take every opportunity to brush my erection against her in the water.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Suddenly she just grabbed my face and kissed me more deeply and aggressively that any woman had ever done. It didn’t take long for Barb to grab a firm hold of my cock as we were embraced. In return I was squeezing her ass and breasts with one hand, while the other literally tore away her panties. Barb’s pussy was noticeably wet even underwater. Being a longtime cunnalingus connoisseur, it wasn’t long before I had my face burried between her legs on the steps of the pool.

Barb was moaning with ecstasy. While I couldn’t actually hear those sounds directly because my ears were pinned between her chubby thighs, I knew that she was delighted at my tongue skills. After a few minutes I noticed that Barb’s moans had stopped and she was saying something. I lifted my head to realize that she was talking with another man standing over us both! It was apparently her ex-husband and he was laughing, with Barb and I in utter embarrassment. He had heard her moans from his tent and just wanted to make sure that she was alright before he scurried away still laughing to himself. If he had heard her, who else could have? For some reason, I was ashamed of being caught trying to fuck the fat chick and just wanted to go to bed. Barb felt that she had to console her ex-husband. I went back to my minivan and almost immediately passed out as soon as I hit my camping pillow.

Who knows how much longer that it was, but I was awoken by Barb knocking on my window. “Are you interested in picking up where we left off?”, she said. I was groggy and my erection had long shriveled up, so I politely said no. Barb insisted, “Come on. I’ll make it worth your while”. Twice more I refused and twice more she practically begged to be let into my car. Being slightly annoyed at this point, a darker side of myself responded, “If you come past that door, you are getting fucked in the ass. Do you understand”? Barb smiled and threw herself at me and it didn’t take long for all parts of my body to become fully awake!

We embraced softly, then violently, breathing heavily all along. Barb climbed on top of me forcefully stuffed my head between he legs as she frantically humped my face. I loved her aggressive desire. Later I straddled her face and “forced” her to take more of my cock in her mouth that I ever have with another woman. Barb seemed to love it. She was the first woman to really talk dirty to me and said incredibly demeaning things to us both that were oddly such a turn on to hear. Eventually we fucked in a variety of positions and her ability to reach climax multiple times was a great ego booster. My own orgasm had been denied through self-control repeatedly.

Then Barb looked deep into my eyes with a small and said, I thought that i was getting fucked in the ass tonight”? I had certainly thought of this when the possibility became a reality, but didn’t have any lube and was too considerate of a lover. With her continued interest, I threw all caution to the wind and flipped her over roughly. It was raw and primitive to do, but I spit on her asshole and eased myself into her ass. The sounds that Barb made were more of ecstasy than pain, although the two sound so similar in the heat of passion. The feeling of not only the sex act itself, but the animalistic desire was amazing! I pounded her almost the the level of physical assault and she uttered a torrid of incomprehensible words as though she was speaking in sexual tounges. To this day, I don’t believe that I have ever cum so hard and I collapsed on top of her.

After several minutes of catching our breath, Barb climbed out from underneath me, kissed me on the cheek, and left without another work.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I saw Barb in passing the following morning, but either because of some responsibilities that I had with the event that we were at or otherwise not really getting a chance to talk privately, we never said a word to one another again. It wasn’t until later that I realized i didn’t know her last name or any contact information. We never saw each other again.

I felt a little awkward the next day, mostly because I was fearing the wrath of my friends for the hookup. Nobody ever said a word. As time has passed, this single sexual encounter has become my most revisited memory when masturbating. I think that it is because it was the first time that I stepped out of the “Mr. Nice Guy” persona that I have and into a more darker sexually selfish side without any inhibitions. Too bad that I am stuck in a vanilla marriage now, because I would love to let that part of me out in bed again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Power / Dominance

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Occasionally I have relayed the story to close friends over the years, but only when the conversation was focused on sexual stories.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being allowed to let a sexual darker side of myself out and the encouragement to throw away any inhibitions.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Loosing some sleep, performance in an athletic event the next day, and brief regret that condoms were not used (no consequences).

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. While my view on casual sex per se didn’t chance, the way that I view my own sexual being changed.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would have liked to see this woman again with a focus on bettering the first encounter sexually.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sex is very important to those who desire it, yet there are so many societal and religious barriers that prevent such a basic human need. Sex, casual or other should be celbrated.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Thank you for starting this web site! I would be very interested in any statistical data or overall report summing up what people have shared.

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