What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? England
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Retail
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Unexpected Pleasure

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The guy in question was a friend’s 20 year old son who I had known for about 10 years since becoming friends with his mum. I hadn’t seen him for 5 years prior to the event that brought us together so he had changed dramatically from my memories of him. He had changed from the young guy I last remembered to a very good looking young man.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began at Christmas party that his parents’ business threw each year at a local hotel. I had gone with my husband who was 15 years my senior as we had done, for the previous 4 years. My marriage was already beyond repair and we had already discussed separating months before. The only reason I went was because of my friend who was well aware my situation, convinced me to go. My husband had a drinking problem and true to form he drunk himself stupid and did his normal trick of totally embarrassing me. At around midnight, the taxi that we had ordered arrived and promptly refused to take us due to my husband’s condition. After a few calls to other firms in the vain hope of trying to getting one, it became clear that it was going to be a very long walk home! My husband by this stage could hardly stand so I even tried to get a room in the hotel as I knew it was going to impossible to get him home. My friend then came to the rescue! She pulled out her phone and called her son. She explained the situation and then announced her son was going to come over and give us a lift home. About 20 minutes later, in walked her son. I couldn’t believe it was the same young man I had last seen 5 years earlier. I wouldn’t say I felt an instant attraction for him but I do remember thinking omg what a change. After bidding my farewells and apologies. Between us all we managed to get my husband into the car. The drive home was quite uneventful. I chatted with Chris (not real name), just small talk as you do. When we arrived he helped me get my husband inside. Just as Chris was about to leave after a thousand thank you’s. There was an almighty crash! We both rushed into my lounge where we had parked my husband. To find him in a heap on the floor, coffee table over turned and its contents all over the floor. He was out for the count! After making sure he was still breathing. It was Chris’s idea we should get him into bed. I don’t know why I agreed I should have just left him there. So began a nearly comical 5 minutes of us struggling to get him up the stairs and into our room. After we got him onto the bed. We put him in the recovery position (again Chris’s idea) and propped him there with pillows. This was done in darkness and the only light in there was that from the landing coming through the door. After leaving the room and pulling the door too but not closed. I again thanked him profusely and went to walk down stairs. He stopped me and completely out of the blue reached across and I felt the palm of his hand on one of my breasts. Not through my dress but skin on skin. With the other hand he pulled at the material that had gathered between my breast and arm pit and placed me back in my dress. That whole event took probably no more than 2 or 3 seconds. The dress that I was wearing was halter necked and cut to just below my boob line. The sort you cant wear a bra with. I am not big but larger than average and I have always considered them my beast feature. In the struggle to get my husband onto the bed somehow I had fallen out of the dress. I was completely embarrassed and again apologised. There was a uncomfortable silence before we headed down stairs to the front door. There I thanked him once again and went to give him a kiss on the cheek and a hug. The hug went on for a bit longer than it should and the next thing I knew were kissing. Full open mouths and tongues. I honestly don’t know how long we were there doing that for But it was broken when he asked if I thought my husband would wake up. To be honest, by that stage, I didn’t care but I said no because I am a sucker for a good kisser. He then led me back into the lounge and sat me on the sofa

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There we played. Mutual masturbation with hands and mouths. We remained clothed just in case although my thong was removed. Chris was not the longest I have had, probably a good 8″ but he had a massive girth. It was the first time I have ever had to open my mouth fully to accept his head. Also not being a person who orgasms easily the moment, I felt his head at my opening and I did cum.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Felt amazing! Went on to see him for over a year

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Not at all

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave a clear ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never told anyone before now

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Made me realise although I am closer to 50 than 40. I still have what it takes and I don’t have to look at guys my own age to have fun

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having to be quiet when I just wanted to let go

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? oh yes a lot more confident within myself

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The only reason I have shared this was because I came across the site accidently

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Use to think casual sex was never going to be for me. I think when your younger you probably needed an emotional attachment. But I can see how people get carried away now. If some had said to me 3 years ago, ” Next year on the Sat 20th December in the early hours of the morning. You will be fucking a guy more than half your age on your sofa while your husband is asleep upstairs ” I would have called them insane !!!

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? seems ok

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