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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Media
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Unfinished Younger Business

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup?  I’m 5’10, slim, with short brown hair. She’s 5’01, with red hair, and is slim with the loveliest curvy figure. We met and dated when I was 21 and she was 27. We also worked for the same company. I had fancied her for ages, and despite a drunken snog, I didn’t think she’d ever be interested. However, we did end up dating for a couple of years before we parted and met other people.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was an old work reunion for a former colleague’s birthday, out of town. We’d been in touch on and off, and decided it would be more fun to go together as mates and share a B&B.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The birthday girl’s house was ridiculously huge. There were so many rooms, and they were all full of people and wine and food. It was just lovely. It was also nice to see old friends. The two of us were chatting about life and smiling at our history. I was wearing jeans, a black shirt, and a jacket. She was in a black and white dress, tights, and heeled boots. We kept smiling and had both noticed a bathroom in the house that not many people were using, so we went there.

We kissed, and our hands were all over each other. I pulled her towards me, with my hands on her bum. My hands were on her, and hers were on me. We quickly took enough clothes off ourselves and each other and we got on the floor with me on top and had frantic fun sex. We didnt want to stay that much longer, especially after this turn of events. We were staying in a room together, so we went back there. It had an amazing bathroom so we had a bath together, and when we got out, I went down on her and we had sex most of the night. She was rightly proud of her 32b boobs, they were so sexy and perfect. She always said it was the most brilliant erotic night.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I think we parted the next morning with a bit of regret about splitting up, but we ploughed on with new our new lives. At another reunion, we met, both in entirely new situations, and ended up shagging. We’ve never really discussed that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody, just on here and with her.

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We still smile about it

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We probably could have made a real go of things, but I wasn’t mature enough.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The relationship made me realise how powerful, and perhaps all consuming a sexual attraction can be.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We are both in very different places and relationships, but we occasionally still let ourselves smile about what happened.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I can’t judge. As long as everyone is on the same page.

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