by Lady Nym
Location: DC Suburbs
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Open minded and gregarious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50 (?)
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over a year
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Post-break up, one-time MFM fantasy fulfilled
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? 2nd marriage ended abruptly and broke my heart. I detached emotionally. I had a long-standing fantasy about having sex with two men at once. I put up a profile on Adult Friend Finder, and spelled out exactly what I was looking for- no strings, straight-up sex where I’d be the center of attention. I didn’t really care if the guys were into each other, but didn’t really want to watch them having sex either. I found a profile that matched my desire explicitly- two guys had teamed up looking for a woman game for a MFM 3-way. One was a mid 40’s white guy, who claimed to be in a sexless marriage. I had a problem with the married part, but he was very reassuring that he and his wife never had sex, she hated it, and he was very careful, discreet, and safe.
The other guy was Latino, younger, closer to my age, maybe late 30’s. Very cute. I didn’t have as much back-and-forth email with him. He was very gracious, and hosted us in his house.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We planned it. We all had to coordinate our schedules, between work/obligations/etc. I traveled about an hour and a half to his house. We met in public on a sunny Saturday morning in a Panera in a very busy Northern VA suburban neighborhood. It was extremely crowded, we sat on high stools near the front, and it was kind of weird talking about sex so openly when there were families queuing up behind us to buy bagels with their toddlers in tow. No one was really listening to us. But that’s a rule. Always meet in a very public place. I had given the details, time, coordinates to a good friend of mine too, so that if I didn’t check in with her by a certain time, she would take steps to track me down.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went back to the Latino guy’s house. He had a very nice home. We talked about work, made chit-chat around the kitchen island. He offered to make us drinks, and normally I don’t drink at 10 a.m. on Saturday morning, but figured this was an exception to the rule and I might need a bit of liquid courage to take the plunge into the experience. I nursed a solo cup full of cranberry and vodka.
We went into his basement, which was finished, had a game room with a couch and a flatscreen, and an adjacent bedroom and bathroom. They put a porn dvd on, of a MFM 3 way (of course), and I was nervous at first. I got the feeling that they were too. But they were really nice, and polite. I was more physically attracted to the younger guy, but I could tell that the older guy was more into this situation than the other guy was- though you wouldn’t know it from his performance. We sat on the couch, I was wearing jeans, a camisole with a zip-up hoodie sweatshirt over it. I turned towards the younger guy, and he started kissing me. It was really nice. I didn’t want the other guy to feel neglected, so then I turned to him, and started making out with him while the younger guy started to undress me.
They both took off my clothes, piece by piece. Then they got undressed. I think that I went down on one of them on the couch before we moved to the bed. There was a mirror on the wall opposite the foot of the bed. I didn’t look at it very often, it was broad daylight, sun pouring in the windows. The older guy went down on me, and fingered my pussy and ass. The younger guy sucked on my nipples, alternately, and kissed me. Then I sucked his cock. He was playful, more teasing. It felt great having two sets of mouths, two cocks, four hands running over me. All they wanted to do is make me feel good. I came really hard, screaming.
Then I think I sucked the older guy off. It’s been over a year, so the details aren’t crystal clear, sequentially. I know that he came. He was really into it. We laid down on the bed, to take a rest. We each took bathroom breaks, and stopped to get water. It was a marathon sex session. I didn’t want to do anal, or DP. They were fine with that. I rode on top while I sucked the other guy, and switched off. They both fucked me from behind. I came the second time while I was fucking the older guy, astride, and the younger guy was straddled over us, I had been giving him oral but I was too close to coming so he jerked himself off on my tits, and the other guy’s hand which was in the vicinity. The older guy came again inside me, in the condom.
After that we were pretty much done, we cleaned up and got dressed, and exchanged numbers and emails that we all knew we wouldn’t follow up on getting back in touch. It was sort of like an intense game, very athletic. I hugged and kissed them both goodbye, before I left for the drive home. It was early afternoon.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We discussed over email ahead of time the things we wanted to do, we discussed STI statuses, recent test results, and established that we would all be using condoms. The older guy said he had a vasectomy, but I insisted that not using barriers was not an option.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Because I always wanted to have this kind of sex.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, not much for me as it was the middle of the day, but they both drank a bit more, but not to the point of being drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a very intense, pleasurable, good experience. I don’t really feel any kind of emotional connection to either of these guys. But that was the point. I didn’t want to.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to my best friend, who is gay. He told me what a fucking fabulous strong woman I was.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, of course.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I fulfilled a sexual fantasy, and it was great. I still fantasize about it sometimes. I don’t really have a strong drive to seek this situation out again, I was curious, and I satiated my appetite. The only negative thing was that one of them was married, and he wasn’t technically in an ‘open’ marriage.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I am a survivor of domestic violence. Stalking, years of abuse, physical, mental, emotional, sexual, and spiritual. I had this hookup during a period when I wasn’t ready to make an emotional connection to someone I was sexually involved with. But this experience for me was very positive, and sexually empowering. It’s taken me 18 months of solitude, mostly, and of not lowering my standards to find a man who I have a very powerful sexual connection with, and who I am willing to trust an emotional connection. This very intentional hookup was part of my healing process.
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