What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30s
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Business
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? I don’t know…100?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Man a little older than me, met him at a cocktail party at a lounge at a conference in Vegas. Well-dressed, strong arms. I was talking to a woman for a while and she pulled him in to our conversation. At some point I sat down on a bench and he sat next to me. He was clearly tipsy. I didn’t think anything of it until I looked down and he kept pressing his legs against mine. I knew he was into me and I was intrigued.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We hung out periodically during the rest of the event. I said that I thought I would go play some blackjack and he said he could do that. At this point I know he’s still into me. Eventually everyone else is gone and we are still there trying to pay the bill. We leave and head upstairs to “hang out”. At first he was heading toward my room but I redirected us to his room. It was just understood that we were going somewhere together.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went in and I sat on the window bench. He was getting ready for bed, eventually gestured to the bed and said I should get comfortable. I got under the covers fully clothed. Once he got into bed (wearing no shirt but still shorts), he turned to me and immediately started caressing and touching me. We had been talking before about our marriages and kids…I said I treat this as don’t ask don’t tell, and he said marriage is work and that she is not ok with this. Then we got back to it, kissing, touching. He rubbed my pussy, I loved feeling his strong back and arms. He asked me why I chose him over all the guys there and I said I wasn’t planning to choose anyone, it just happened. He took off my dress and bra and got all over me. Nibbling on my nipple, strong fingers massaging deep in my pussy. He said he didn’t have a condom so we couldn’t do this “the right way”. I grabbed his cock. We 69’ed only he preferred to use fingers vs mouth. When he fucked my throat, I gagged (alcohol). He kept telling me that he wanted to make me come, I said that he was such a gentleman. He asked what makes me come, and I said dick but we can’t do that, and tongue. He gave me a little tongue and a lot of fingers. I directed him to my g-spot. He slowed down the rhythm and eventually I came. I had been sucking and fondling him along the way, so once I came, he blew all over my shoulder and chest and it got in my hair. I went to the bathroom and cleaned up, he asked if I took a shower and I said no. I was impressed that he was still awake when I came out of the bathroom…still a gentleman. We cuddled and fell asleep until I woke up in the middle of the night and did the walk of shame back to my room (nobody saw me)..,with cum still in my hair.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I haven’t seen or talked to him since and we live in different countries. The next day I enjoyed my hot memory. If I run into him in future at a conference, I could see it happening again…only this time I hope we have a condom!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device), No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I feel like I should feel guilty, but I don’t.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was so into pleasing me. He picked me up, which I love.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We didn’t have a condom, so no penetrative sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was able to enjoy casual sex without penetration, though I much prefer it. I felt good about myself…he made me feel beautiful and desirable.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish that it was more accepted and that I had an open marriage. This was fun and joyful and had nothing to do with falling in love. I only really find it acceptable when traveling. Would never want to deal with the complications when at home.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s really hot, and interesting to read the various perspectives. Not sure what the overall purpose is though, hopefully not to blackmail me.
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