by bigbear

Gender: Male
Age: 37
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Johannesburg
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: IT
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Very Casual

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was my roommate’s friend, we had met a couple of times at social events. She was overweight but so am I so it’s not relevant. She always seemed like fun but I was not attracted to her physically.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had a house party at the digs and it kind of just happened. Late in the evening a few of the others decided to go out clubbing, I declined and she also said she would rather stay to keep me company.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? There was some kissing and fondling followed by vaginal intercourse. Nothing strange, she was on top. I had an orgasm, I don’t think she did. It was not great in my opinion. Afterwards we went to sleep together.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Yes, we used a condom throughout and we did have a discussion about safe sex before we were aware we would be practicing it.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Boredom, loneliness

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol was involved but not a great deal

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went our separate ways and only spoke again about 6 months later. I apologized because I felt I had used her for sex and I had not bothered to find out what her expectations were. She was OK with it and subsequently got married.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate, my best friend. They seemed to think it was OK.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Totally consensual for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes, I had no physical attraction and should have listened to my head on that one.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It taught me that sex without a connection is pointless.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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