What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Hostess
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Virgin’s One Night Stand
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 21 and worked in the back of the restaurant I worked at. I had a pretty big crush on him and all of the guys in the back. I’m about 5’2 and he’s probably 5’9.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He messaged me on Facebook around February and we got to talking and the conversation ended up on the fact that I’ve never been in a relationship and the furthest I had gone with a guy was kissing. He made it clear he wanted to have sex and I told him I wanted to have sex before I turned 18 in June. Due to medical reasons (separated hymen) I couldn’t have sex so I stopped talking to him for a while. Fast forward to the beginning of June, I get surgery to fix my hymen and message him literally the day it stopped hurting. I said, “Hey, come pick me up.” He said, “Right now?” And I said yes. He came over right then. It was around 1am.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I snuck out of my house and he picked me up. He parked his car and we started making out then he asked if I wanted to go back to his place. I told him there was a park in my neighborhood we could just go there. We get to the park and I take off my clothes and he took off his and we got in the back of his car and had sex. It was rough. I bled and it hurt. I had to make him stop cause it really hurt. He was really nice about it so I felt bad but I wasn’t going to be uncomfortable just so he could get off. Then he dropped me back off at my house and I had to move a week later. He messaged me a few days later trying to hook up again so I guess I wasn’t all bad. I have no regrets it was on my terms and a week before I turned 18 🙂
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went home and went to sleep. When I woke up a few hours later I was still bleeding but I felt so proud of myself. I had hoped we’d hook up more so I could get more comfortable having sex, but because I moved that didn’t happen. I don’t have any feelings toward him except that he’s really cute, but I felt that way before we hooked up so nothing really changed. I shared the fact that we hooked up with a coworker I was close with and she told everyone. He was pissed and cussed me out and told me it’s not that he didn’t like me he just didn’t want people knowing. I have no hard feelings because I guess I was in the wrong for telling someone.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told one of our coworkers and she told everyone we worked with. She was happy for me though cause she knew I wanted this.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I had sex. I know virginity is a social construct and blah blah but I really wanted to have sex before I was 18. I wanted to have sex in general, I think I would have had sex sooner had I not needed the surgery.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It hurt, but I knew that was a possibility going into it. Also not using protection. Which I didn’t make a point to ask or make him use protection, but neither did he so I guess we are both at fault,
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I still feel like I want to have sex with as many people as possible.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? He was a horrible kisser.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is great if you’re into it, and if you aren’t into it, that’s great too!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s really cool. It takes some of the shame that some people have about casual sex away. It shows that a lot of people from all walks of life are hooking up!
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