What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Norway and Sweden
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Tailor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? I have lost count
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder, he was a cis man, 40 years old, 1.95 meters tall. He was nice, funny, laid back. We met IRL at a bar down the street from my hotel.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We kissed in the bar. When we agreed to meet on Tinder I assumed we’d hook up. He was very relaxed and did not pressure me at all to do anything or expect anything.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had vaginal sex, it was fun. He was very nice and considerate. We talked about our families and our jobs and what we were both doing in Oslo (neither of us lives there). We laid in bed a while afterward and then I left. He was a bit disappointed I didn’t stay the night. I didn’t orgasm because I drank too much (known problem of mine) which bummed me out but it was my own fault and overall I wasn’t disappointed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went back to my hotel. I felt fine about it the next day. He was a really nice and caring person to have a one night stand with. I messaged him the next day and said I had a nice time. He replied with similar sentiment a while later. No plans to meet up or hang out ever again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. We laughed about it a bit. One was jealous.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He was really nice and we had fun.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I really wanted to orgasm but I drank too much.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have had lots of casual sex. Some terrible, a lot better since being married. Only one bad experience being judged about it, but that person can go fuck themselves.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very interesting!
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