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by Picapica

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Recruitment
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? M and I were pretty good friends and we’d been having sex on and off for about 6 months but not really dating. He is 6’3, skinny, scruffy brown hair, big hazel eyes and dresses kinda mod / punk. I was pretty infatuated with him but we were just friends. I met him through my work.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? M came over to my house for dinner and to stay over so us having sex was pretty certain. I asked him over a few days before. We had a lot to drink – 3 bottles of wine and half a bottle of sloe vodka.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? M was out in my close having a cigarette and I went out to join him. I put my arm around him and started kissing his cheek, then his lips. He was never keen on initiating sex so this was pretty normal for us. My upstairs neighbour was on holiday so I was playing the Stooges real loud. I undid M’s belt and went down on him while he sat on the stairs. He stood up and we moved over to the wall so that my head was against it and he held my head steady and made me deep-throat him repeatedly. After a while, he pulled me up by the hair and bent me over the railings in the close and penetrated me from behind.
We went back indoors and we had sex with me on top til I came. M pulled me to the edge of the bed and he went down on me for a while. At some point he went out for another cigarette and I put my dress back on and went outside. He told me how horny he felt told me he had no limits and he wanted me to be a good girl and do as I was told. When we went back in, he got me to kneel at the side of the bed, brought a glass of sloe vodka through and started to finger me hard vaginally and anally. He tied my ankles together with his belt, called me a dirty girl repeatedly and spat on my back. He told me to be quiet and then poured the vodka on his cock and into my ass. It stung like hell but was kinda hot too. He then penetrated me vaginally and anally and finished on my back.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about it, then fell asleep, we were pretty wasted so the next day was mostly us recovering. We stopped sleeping together a few months ago. I’m still sorta in love with him but we’re just friends. I knew it would never be more than that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Prescription pain killers (Vicodin, Percoset, Demerol, Dilaudid)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A couple of friends. They both felt it would all end in tears.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun and really hot and pushed my boundaries in a big way.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The hangover the next day.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes it did. I realised that I have a very submissive, masochistic streak.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s not something I’ve ever done before. I had a lot of negative sexual experiences when I was younger so I only ever had sex as part of a committed relationship. I’m not really into having serious relationships anymore but mix the sex. I don’t encounter any negativity about it from my circle of friends or from wider society to be honest.

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