What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Washington, DC
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Questioning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Vodka, Vaginas, and Vomiting
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is short, Hispanic, and preppy. Not unattractive, but his personality can ruin that. We had not hooked up before, we were somewhere between acquaintances and friends from college. He was living at my apartment for a few days after the school year ended. We met at school, and before the hook up, I liked him as a friend but sometimes found him annoying.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? No planning, just a drunken night. We were drinking at a friend’s apartment, and I was pretty drunk. Next thing I know, we’re making out on the couch, then we left in an Uber and somehow managed to get back to my apartment, where the night went on.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Honestly, I remember very little. I remember him going down on me for a while, and some sort of hand job going on. I don’t know what more happened. We fell asleep together, but I threw up drunk, so we moved to the couch. The next morning, I woke up first, naked, and quickly got dressed. The two of us have never discussed it, but unfortunately our whole friend group and circle of acquaintances found out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We fell asleep. The next morning, we acted like nothing had happened. I was a little shocked, but not appalled or happy about it. Just like, oh! that happened. I know nothing will every happen between us, and, for unrelated reasons, I don’t really like him as a friend any more.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Blacked out / Passed out
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody, but people learned from others and were surprised
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I don’t know, I just do.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? His going down on me. It was nice, I think!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Remembering so little.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not on the surface level, at least.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I hook up a lot and enjoy it, though I have experienced complications once emotions get involved. If everyone involved is in agreement, open, and honest, I see no issue with it.
I wish less people used it less to show off. Keep it to yourself!
Lastly, I go to an Ivy League school and was surprised to see how prevalent the hookup culture was when I first started. I hadn’t realized smart kids have so much sex, especially considering what many of us were like in high school.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Mixed feelings. It’s fun, but I don’t quite see the end goal.
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