What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? NA
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was an attendee at a black tie event I volunteered at. He was quite a bit older than me, in his early 30s. Found his profile on Grindr (a gay hook up app) and figured why not have a little fun. Was very casual.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I messaged him on Grindr at a post-event dinner with people I volunteered with, started small-talking and the topic of horniness came up and I figured since I had nothing to do and was also in the mood, why not just go for it. No prior planning and was very spontaneous.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went back to his apartment, we took our clothes off and jumped into bed. After making out for a little, I went down to give him a blowjob and about 15 seconds in, he started vomiting. My best guess is it was due to food poisoning from the event or from the drinks. As I was about to put my clothes back on and leave, he convinced me to stay and got back to the /festivities/ when about a minute in, he threw up for a /second/!! time. As with any sane minded person would do, I put my clothes back on and headed for the door when he convinced me to stay yet again. And I did. We didn’t do anything after the 2nd throw up episode and just went to sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When we woke up the next day we tried to try it one last time and I tried to give him a blow job multiple times to no avail. He claimed he had ‘whiskey dick’ so I just headed for the door.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friend about the encounter right as I left and they screamed at me for not leaving after the first throw up.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? Getting thrown up on twice in one night is not…um…enjoyable.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got a great story out of it that I will never stop telling
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? You know…the vomit
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Haven’t had sex or even thought of going near a person with a penis since.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Word of advice: leave after being thrown up on the first time.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m pretty comfortable with it as long as you do it to your own will and no regrets.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great idea!
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