What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met A at a friends party and we chatted for a very long time. She is funny, smart, very pretty and with the sexiest voice. There was some chemistry and we both noticed that we liked each other, but nothing happened that night.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After the party we met a few times and made out a little, things were escalating. I arrived to the city after a long road trip and I was very tired, still I messaged A to see if she wanted to get some drinks. We went to a bar downtown, and talked a lot – we have a lot of fun. During the third beer we started kissing passionately and shared a look that led to the both of us saying ‘it’s time to go’.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went to my place and started undressing immediately. We kiss as I explore her body with my hands. Then I started kissing all over and started doing oral on her. When I stopped to get a condom A said that that was really good, and I told her that I like it that she liked it. We started on missionary, then she was on top of me. It felt great when A was above me; the grinding was in all of the right places, and I loved grabbing her from her ass and hips. I could tell she was enjoying it a lot too. We both came multiple times during the hook up, and we were changing from missionary, to oral on her, to she riding me, several times. We couldn’t stop ourselves to wanting more from the other, there was great chemistry.
We ended up exhausted, panting, lying next to each other; we looked at ourselves, smiled and high fived, laughing at all the fun we just had. She told me that she really enjoyed it too, that I was a very good lover, and that maybe, it helped that she hadn’t had sex in six months. I told her that she was amazing. We both felt great.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We agreed that we should do this again, although it hasn’t happened. I have a lot of fun with A, so I do hope we meet again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Not a soul.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was hot and fun.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Cheating.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Gave me more confidence.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? That it should be discussed more objectively
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its great and it works for the greater good.
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