Current location: Kaduna, Nigeria
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Insatiable
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She is a well built lady, fair in complexion, married with three kids, aged 4, 6 and 9. I have known her for over fifteen years and we had a little flamed experience at our Grandmother’s funeral, but nothing really happened then.
She is my first cousin on my maternal side and everybody in the family knows to be very fond of each other and love each others company a lot anytime we meet, not enough to raise any eyebrow.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was on the eve of my wedding at my own apartment. But it started on the Thursday she arrived town for my wedding. We were very excited to see each other after ten years of not seeing. She practically wouldn’t leave my side. We ended up in my kid sister’s room, catching up on lost time ( she told me they hardly had sex once in three months with her husband and how she don’t like to use condoms when I sought to know how life has treated her since we last met). My kid sister joined us and soon slept off leaving the two of us. Mom came in to tell her and my sister to join my other sister in her room since I will be spending the night there ( I kept wondering if Mom smelt something was gonna go down).
One thing lead to another and I wanted to kiss her and she declined. She left for the other room and back almost immediately to plant a kiss on my lips with tears in her eyes while my kid sister was still sleeping in the room.
Well, when it eventually happened, I think we planned it as I could not wait to lay my hands on her, I feel she felt the same way too. The next day, my wedding eve, we left my parents house to my apartment in the pretense of showing her my place, more like, creating a get-away.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? A couple of my friends came to my apartment almost immediately we got there. I asked them to go fix my wedding suit that I just picked up a day before at my Tailor’s, I just did that to get rid of them quickly really. She helped cleaned and took a shower. She came into the room only with the towel on after she showered, I made for her and we kissed for along while. I dragged us to the bed, she put up a mild resistance, that made to promise I was only gonna eat her to which she agree. and eat her out.
I then made to mount her and she kind of stiffen and said I should remember my promise and stick to it. I told her I am not going to penetrate, I am only going to dry hump, of course with our clothes off to which she consented. A while into the dry humping session, she reached for my **** and guided it to her ***** in a flame of passion. The feeling was awesome!
After the whole act, she was shy and. couldn’t look me in the eye.
She was a GREAT lover to the hilt! I told her how very much I would to do that over and over with her again and she felt that same way too, at least, she said that much. We then agreed to take our secrets to our graves with us never to disclose it to anybody ( I think I just broke that promise somehow)
She went to clean up in the bathroom, when she came back, I asked to come feel me as we might never have the chance in a life time. She was reluctant but I grabbed her hand and place it on my limp **** and it almost immediately shot back to life and had another steamy and memorable session. I took care to withdraw before cumming on both occasions.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had orgasm twice, she said had it thrice like never before.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No condom was used but I took care to withdraw before cumming as a way to prevent her getting pregnant. I had no worries of STI cause I was made to understand by her sexual experience with her husband that there is really nothing to worry about.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was very fond of her and then her boring and almost absent sex life with her husband, I guess made me.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Nop, none was involve.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We pretended it never really happened and went ahead to have a great wedding celebration the next day, though I felt dirty and empty when I took those vows in church.
Honestly, I wish it could keep happening because it was a great experience and I am not getting anything close to it in my marriage, almost a reverse of her situation really.
There are those times I really miss her and what happened. At times like that, I call her to talk about it but she won’t just open up, I guess she has moved on somehow.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? This is the first time am ever saying anything about it.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I guess it was very long in coming for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Yes and no. Yes because society frowns at that kind of thing and no because am still open to it.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about it is that we both care for each other even though society frowns on our kind of behavior.
The worst is, I can’t talk about it. Well, I feel am not self disciple enough to have allowed it to happen, no regrets though.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Sex in marriage is complex and complicated for some.
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