by Ana

Gender: female
Age: 29
Race/ethnicity: white
Location: South America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Analyst
Religious affiliation: Atheist, but raised religious
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Weekly Thing

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 days

How would you best classify this hookup? eh…. I don’t like labels

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met at a party years ago. Both my husband and I met him. My husband thought he was trying to flirt with me, but we work in complimentary fields. We had lunch a couple times over the years, never lost contact. He was always friendly, I always thought of him as a potential client. He is about 20 years older than me. Not unattractive — sexy, but it seems like he is at the end of his attractive years. One afternoon, lunch turned into drinks, that turned into going back to his apartment.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I emailed him to see when he was available. It has almost become a weekly thing- I don’t schedule work meetings that could go long before we meet up.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? This time just vaginal. Good lover, but would prefer something kinkier overall, he fucked my brains out. This time I came four times. My typical number is three.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We use condoms, but he isn’t too into them — I actually provide them. I recently got tested, he says he got tested 4 months before the first time we hooked up.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? This time I am stressed and my husband refuses to have sex with me when I am stressed because he doesn’t like it when I “use” him for sex. In general my husband isn’t that horny so this is my insurance.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We smoked some weed, but not that much.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Hopefully we meet up again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? NO ONE. People love my husband and they would kill me.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for me, I guess he was into it too. But his thing is that he wants me to tell him how much I want to fuck him. He has never told me he wants to fuck me, and I don’t care.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? NOOOO

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best: its emptiness. Makes me more relaxed. Maybe the worst is I think about him when I fuck my husband and I think about my husband when I fuck this guy. Makes me feel like I will never find someone that will satisfy my sexually.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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