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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Weird Ex’s Night

How long ago did this hookup happen? Yesterday

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We had an open relationship for almost 3 years, but since summer (4 months ago) we decided (mostly her decision) to stop seeing each other as a couple because the thing hasn’t gone well since a while. I have to say that we are really best friends and I know that she thrust me more than anyone and I feel the same for her. A week ago, she started to call me and to try to spend so much time together as we used to, and I was fine with that, but till yesterday I was avoiding to sleep in her house, even when the occasion has presented a few times. But last night I was looking to sleep with her, and I think she was too.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We spent all afternoon together near her house, by the night we decided to take a few beers and drink them at her home. When it got late, she suggested we go to sleep, so we did. The has a desoccupied room, but since her bed was, over with tons of clothes she just came to the empty room with me. We were cuddling and talking, and like I used to, I was caressing her belly and her back. I noticed she was quivering a little bit while I do that, and that she was getting excited (she has always been very sensitive with her back).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When it turned very evident that she was turned on, I began to caress her butt and kissing her neck. A couple of minutes later I took her pants off and started licking her butt and then I gave her oral sex. Then penetrated her from behind and I could hear her moaning. But when we change to missionary position I noticed she wasn’t doing any noises and a few seconds later I realized she was crying. I stopped immediately and hugged her and asked her if she was alright. She couldn’t even answer because of her weeping. So I pick up her clothes and I put her panties and pants on again. Then I dressed my self and just hugged her. She just said: I don’t want our thing to get bad again. I just told her “I’m sorry” and I didn’t ask more questions.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Even when we didn’t talk more about it, the thing didn’t get awkward and we talked like if anything happened. But inside myself, I was feeling very bad. I think was hoping we could be lovers again. I don’t know what will occur next. The next morning we just spent hours cuddling and talking normally but I felt a fervent desire to kiss her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? anyone

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? feeling her body again because I love her

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Now I don’t know what is going to happen with our relationship

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? mp

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I love it.

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