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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 44
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Salt Lake City USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Financial Services
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 46
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

Well, That Was Something

How long ago did this hookup happen? 18 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This lady “Kris” and I had been chatting via a dating app for about three months prior to meeting. She agreed to come over for dinner. She looked just like her pictures: strawberry blonde with freckles, cute, fit.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After dinner, I gave her a quick tour of the house. I began touching her in her arms and shoulders signifying my intent, and she went right along. We retreated to the bedroom.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She is g-spot centric and came several times via digital stimulation together with pressure from above in her pubic area. She entered a sort of orgasmic trance and squirted at some point. This is only the second time I’ve ever witnessed this with anyone. We had vaginal sex twice, and I came easily both times, something I can only do with a new partner.

I would say yes, she’s a good lover, owing in large part to the fact that she was completely uninhibited. After a few hours in bed, she got dressed and went home. We’re friends on FB and keep in touch via text. We’ve only seen each other the one time.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great. Next morning I went out for a long run and smiled all the while.

My hope is that we stay in touch over time. Circumstances permitting, I could envision getting together down the road sometime.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends, Everyone else was/is doing it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? There’s something undeniably thrilling about being with a new lover in a safe and supportive way when both partners are willing and uninhibited.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We used a condom during the first exchange but not the second. I regret that lapse.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s one of my fondest casual sex memories. At this stage of life, it’s very interesting to me to note how much more uninhibited women are in their 40s and 50s than they were earlier in life. I’ve also been with two women in their early 50s, and those experiences were absolutely fantastic. Perhaps I should write about those next.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s totally healthy and normal! As long as it’s safely done between consenting adults, seriously, what’s the harm? Everyone needs intimacy. Everyone needs to be touched. Everyone needs to feel attractive. It’s enormously satisfying to satisfy a lover.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it! Viva Macedonia!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!