What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Dog Trainer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 11
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? First timer
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over a month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He had beautiful bright blue eyes. The type that you would mix into the equation of baby making. I did not know anything about him other than his girlfriend just cheated on him, and my boyfriend had recently cheated on me. I actually fell in love with his girlfriend before I even got his name. We first met a year back. We went cliff jumping with a big group of friends. He seemed chill, but did not really say much. But he didn’t have to say much, because he had a girlfriend. I just wanted to go cliff jumping. Our agendas were different. 100% respect.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He invited me over, to “chill.” That was the intention. No harm no foul in my gamebook. I knew what I was doing. It might have just been me to check out my game. Cheating definitely creates insecurities that were not there before. I always feel pretty good about myself, and I guess this was a way of checking in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He introduced me to his dad the first night. We all knew what was going on. I was like his new thing to bring home. It was pure movie script. He invited me up into his room. I got comfortable as soon as I stepped in. I rolled a blunt. He was so different, he was so pure, I could tell he only wanted love, that novelty book. It was cute.
He was getting nervous around me and telling me how beautiful I was, ya know, the things guys say too make a girl blush, unintentionally or whatever. He was taking it further than the blunt. We did not talk about our broken hearts. We just fucked them out. There was something so porno about the way we went from the backyard to running up the stairs giggling. He made me feel so comfortable. I did too.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We cleaned up quickly, smoked the rest of the blunt and I headed out. I got home, I slept in euphoria that night with my boyfriend by my side. I did not feel sleazy or easy. I just had this new sense of peace. I did not wish for him to call me, I did not give him my number. I did not need that extra. So there were no expectations, just full flesh karma. He ended up getting my number, calling me, face timing me at unexpected hours. I had to block him. He began to comment on my Instagram photos. The more he tired, the more I backed up. I do believe he deserves love, though.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, Power / Dominance, Revenge / Getting even, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…), Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? This would be my first time ever “speaking” of this occasion
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Our random make out sessions
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His desperation to see me again
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, a bit
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex like all things has the negatives and positives, Don’t let one experience dictate all your future experience.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I am really happy to see such an study take place! Great to know that there is more than one story.
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