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Gender: Female
Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: USA, east coast, big city
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Office manager
Religious affiliation: Culturally Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Hereroflexible
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? This is my first

Who Knew?

How long ago did this hookup happen? Three+ years

How would you best classify this hookup: Sex with good friends

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This hookup was with a couple – I was friends with both of them individually, but that they were dating each other was totally on the DL. She is hot – and a totally different look/body type than I am (I’m curvy, she’s thin and athletic. I have long hair, hers is very short. I’m a blonde, she’s brunette). He is an ex-marine. Nice looking, always well-groomed.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The three of us went to dinner- nothing out of the ordinary. I didn’t know they had been seeing each other romantically, so it was a pretty innocent dinner.

I got to telling them about my date/sexcapade that had happened earlier in the week- that had been my first sex in almost a year after a terrible breakup. I thought they seemed a little overly interested in the fact that I had just gotten some, but they are very good friends- it wasn’t out of bounds for our conversations.

We went back to his house and we watched a movie. It got late, he started rubbing my shoulders- not particularly unusual since I tend to be rather touchy with my buddies. Then the two of them start making out. Which was a shock to me. The clothes started coming off….and we went upstairs.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It started off as pretty standard sex- he fucked me from behind, standing up and leaning over the bed, while she watched. From there we went on to all sorts of combinations and positions. He took out a huge phallic-shaped vibrator and told her to fuck herself with it while we watched. It was the first time I tasted another woman. More acidic than I would have imagined, but not at all unpleasant.

These two were so crazy into each other that by the end, I was just enjoying watching them fuck. I got myself off just inches from them doing it in his bed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Both of we women are on birth control. He wore condoms. The other woman and I know each other well enough to know that we both keep up to date with our testing.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Life is short and sex is fun.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had a little wine with dinner. Smoked a tiny bit of pot, but as soon as the sex started happening I was dead sober.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was so much fun! I left them in bed and went home, although he said that he would sleep on the sofa if we girls wanted the bed. I wanted/needed to be alone. Laughed all the way home.

She is still a BFF-level girlfriend. They had a horrible falling out and he moved, so neither of us speak to him anymore.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve discussed it with him since then, but not with her. Which is interesting – she’s a very close friend and we talk about all kinds of personal stuff…and our respective sex lives.  My current boyfriend knows (and is so jealous of the guy, heh). A few select close friends.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? This was all entirely consensual. Enthusiastic consent from all parties.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not for one single minute. Except maybe that I didn’t do more things with them when I had the opportunity- they were hot!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was how much fun sex can be outside the context of a romantic relationship. Pure pleasure, some good laughs, and no guilt.

The worst part I guess is that she and I never talked about it. And that it only happened once.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I would have been an idiot to pass up this opportunity. So much fun.

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