by Jennifer S.

Gender: Female
Age: 43
Race/ethnicity: White/Caucasian
Location: New York
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Director of Marketing
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Raised Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Open to swinging
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Probably 100 or more
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Why Didn’t We Do This Sooner?

How long ago did this hookup happen? last week

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have known him for 6 years. We met in the swinger scene and I think there was a mutual attraction. We tried hooking up in the past but never did because he couldn’t remain hard. We were always partying and he couldn’t stay hard.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He instigated it. We shared a hotel room. I didn’t expect anything to happen since we hung out so many years and I thought he put me in the “friend” category.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral for both of us and sex.  It was amazing, multiple orgasms, he was probably the best I had in a long time.  He said the same about me.  Must have been the years of pent up sexual tension.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t have or use condoms. He is “sniped” and I am on birth control.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I love sex. He is attractive and we were horny.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We both drank earlier in the evening.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day we went back to being friends. We had to work together on a project. We acknowledged that it was amazing sex. I feel like I want to hook up again if the opportunity arises. I wish we had hooked up more often when I lived out west.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nope!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best thing = GREAT SEX!

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I hooked up with 4 other men this month. None of them compared to this hookup. There is a lot to be said for good lovers. Not only was this guy a very good lover (he should be – we met on the swinger scene) but I think good sex also involves sexual chemistry and attraction. This one is a good lover because he pays attention to a woman’s body and her responses. The other guys “think” they are good and bed and feel the need to brag that they are. THAT is a turn off.

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