What’s your gender? Genderqueer / Nonbinary
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
What’s your current relationship status? Single
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Wife Watched Us
How long ago did this hookup happen? couple of days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? M. is a real bear, tall and broad shoulders. His head is bald, but his chest is a jungle. He is a bit more than 20 years older than me, which I consider the best age gap between two male lovers.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I contacted M. on Gaydar for a hookup. Our first arrangement failed and we went for a second one. Just before I wanted to leave my place to get to his, I checked my messages again and saw that he had sent me a message: “You can come here now, I hope you don’t mind that my wife is here”. That puzzled me, because usually the married guys cancel if their wives are at home. I was very curious about that set up which was unheard of for me. I just did not feel to waste time by messaging M. again, so I just went to his place to find out.
When I came to his place, his wife was indeed there. She just sat in the living room and said hello to me as I got in.
M and I decided to go to business straight away, so we went to the matrimonial bedroom.
I was incredibly curious about this situation so I asked M about it once we were in the bedroom. We had a bit of an pre-intercourse talk.
He explained to me that they had been married for many years now, are very used to each other. Their son is already adult. M. had been in the closet for many years, secretly hooking up with men. A few years ago, his wife caught him and they sorted it out. His wife had decided that he did not mind that her husband was bisexual. So he is allowed to hook up.
I congratulated him on having such a tolerant wife and commented that it turned me on quite a bit knowing that she is just outside in the living room. M. asked me whether he should ask her to come in and watch us. I was completely flabbergasted and asked him whether that was their regular thing. M. replied no, but sometimes she’d do that to do him a favour if it aroused his guests. I shouldn’t expect any action of her, though. She would just watch for a bit.
It arouses me a bit knowing about the other sexual partners of my hook-ups. So I asked M. He told me that he still has sex with his wife, even though it is a bit quiet as she is not that interested in sex any more. M does not hook up that often, but mostly with young men, twinks like me. The last boy had been very young, M. had wondered whether he was really already 18 as the boy had claimed.
All this talk made me incredibly horny. I was willing to give M more of me than I had originally planned.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I stripped naked after M had left the room to get his wife. He returned and told me that his wife would take a peek in a short while. M. took of his clothes as well and we started kissing. We felt and licked each other’s bodies. It was very sensual.
I was laying in front of M and sucking his dick when his wife came in. She just stood there as I was pleasuring her husband. M. held up his dick and pressed out his huge balls. I looked at M’s wife with his balls in my mouth. She did not seem to take much interest in what was going on, but she smiled at me. i got a hard-on because she was looking at us, played a bit with myself and went on to suck M.s fat cock. I got so much into sucking cock that I even missed it when the wife left the room again.
I was madly in love with M’s huge cock, so we did a lot of oral, changing to 69. M was as passionate as a cocksucker as he was as a kisser. I really enjoyed the hookup. So when M. asked me whether he was allowed to fuck me I was ok with it. I originally had planned only to do oral.
We fucked missionary and cowgirl. M’s huge cock felt great in my anus.
M. really made me feel like a girl as I was riding him. We kissed and I licked his chest a lot during the intercourse. I finally could not hold it anymore, wanked myself a bit and came while I was riding M and My sperm was all over his manly chest. M had not come even come yet! I apologised, we wiped it off. I got into the doggy position to allow M to finish off quickly.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After sex, M. and I got dressed and joined his wife in the living room for a bit. We had a coffee together and chatted. That felt super awkward for me! His wife was incredibly open and friendly to me. I could not spot an ounce of jealousy! She said she does not mind boys coming over as long as it is safe. For her, all we do is essentially masturbate together. I wonder whether that is really true considering how passionately M.’s kisses are.
I told M. how much I had enjoyed the hook up and asked him whether I could visit again. M. accepted, of course. But one never knows with Gaydar hook ups whether a second hook up will really happen.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I didn’t bother to tell anyone about it. My friends hook up all the time.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? M. made me feel like a girl. His physical features are the way I like my guys to look like. The wife coming in was really just an unexpected kinky touch. I liked that, but I would have enjoyed my time with M. anyway.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? nothing bad
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I would like to read more about queer sex.
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