by Sammy

Gender: female
Age: 54
Race/ethnicity: white
Current location: ontario
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: retired
Relationship status: single
Religious affiliation: none
How religious are you?: Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 75
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

Wild Fun In Mexico

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years

How would you best classify this hookup? group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The main one was a white guy (Steve) and the other two were mexicans. I had met the white guy a couple times before at a bar but I had never met the mexicans. Steve was a real estate agent living in Mexico. He was in his early 40’s and the two mexicans were in their early 20’s. All were good looking and steve was bald. I had had a previous experience with Steve where he showed up with a friend and we had had a good time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Steve was a busy guy and I was living in Mexico for the winter. He would call me and ask if I was busy. If I wasn’t, he would show up with a friend or in this case, two friends. When we first met in the bar there was a spark between us and we exchanged numbers. I was in mexico just enjoying life, it being the first year of my retirement and my first time going to mexico for the winter. I described myself to men as a free spirit and made it very clear that i was not looking to be tied down to one man.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Steve came to the door with his two friends. The friends did not speak any english and at the time I spoke no Spanish. It was a melee of positions with Steve being the leader for the men. No anal is involved as that is one thing I find painful and do not like. There was oral between all of us…heterosexual only. Steve was a good lover, the two men would be best described as good hard cocks. I have g spot orgasms but only an experienced man can make that happen so that was steve’s realm. I enjoyed the whole experience fully as did the men. We didnt talk much as there was a language barrier. It was understood by all that it was just a fling and had no chance of being long term. I knew it was likely I would never see the mexican guys again.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I had several g spot orgasms and one clitoral orgasm. The guys all had orgasms as well.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used condoms. We did not discuss it that time. In the previous time with Steve we agreed on using condoms. I am no longer able to get pregnant so that is not an issue.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was fun and I was at a period in my life where I was having a lot of casual sex. In this part of Mexico guys love sex with older women so I was hit on every time that I went to the bar, usually by more than one guy. It was a huge ego boost as that does not happen in canada. Here, guys are too afraid of rejection. I love sex and the high it gives me.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We had all smoked some weed when they first arrived. Weed is a huge turn on for me.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was a daytime tryst. As soon as it was over, they all left. Steve and I planned on meeting again some time when he was free. There was no contact other than for sex. This happened a couple more times after this encounter but then he disrespected  me by calling and setting up a time but not showing up and giving no explanation. That was not acceptable to me so it never happened again. There was never any expectation for future encounters and I have no thoughts negative or positive about the person, just that it was a very fun experience

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I have talked about this particular experience to a couple random people who i knew i had no long term connection with. Being a female, this sort of thing is not looked on in a positive way. Very few people would accept this as being okay for a woman to do. I recently talked to a casual male friend about it and he of course thought it was very exciting and would like to be part of something like it. I used to talk about my wild winter to men that I was dating,  but I have learned that though they get excited by the idea, they do not not want to know that the woman they are having sex with has had so many men. The other problem with telling men this is that they think that i cannot be happy with just them and that I will be unfaithful.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes..consensual and wanted by all parties.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a lot of fun and it left me with a grin on my face for awhile. The worst was knowing future experiences were not really in my power with this guy. It was up to him to call me and find the friend or friends to bring with him. No, it did not change anything. It was not the first or last group sex that i engaged in.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? It was a very fun winter with many casual sexual experiences. Unfortunately something has changed in my thinking and I seem to have to have an emotional connection with a man to be interested in sex. I wish this was not so. Now my thinking really interferes with my physical body desires.

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