What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Kansas City
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? LCSW
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Wine-Tasting Event Aftermath
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew Gabe casually from the church I attended. He was tall and skinny with thinning hair and an easy smile. He was just an acquaintance.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was attending grad school and had met a gal named Jeri who I really hit it off with and we both liked to drink and learn about wine. Coincidentally, Gabe did as well so I got the three of us together to go to wine tastings around town. I think Gabe had a thing for Jeri but she was dating someone else at the time. One evening Jeri couldn’t make the wine tasting so just Gabe and I went. We overdid it and become very inebriated. Later on, we went back to my car and decided to sleep it off but a cop came along and said we had to leave. We drove back to my place (slowly) where Gabe had left his car. He came up to my apartment to sleep some more on the couch before attempting to get behind the wheel. About 15-20 minutes later Gabe asked if he could sleep in bed with me as the couch was too short and I said that was fine. He got in and in a couple of minutes, our hands were touching and pretty soon he was fondling my breasts.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out for a few minutes and, due to the alcohol and the dry spell I was in, I got really wet when he sank two fingers into my pussy. Gabe worked his digits in and out as we swirled our tongues together. After a few minutes, he mounted me and I pulled him in deeper with my legs. He fucked me hard and I could hear myself panting on each thrust. I don’t orgasm vaginally but this was really hot sex! Finally, he unloaded into me and I remember raising my voice and telling him to put it all in my pussy. We fell asleep and some time in the early morning hours I felt a stiff cock up against my backside and I wiggled my butt as a signal and Gabe entered me from the spoon position and we had a more languid fuck than the night before. He bit down on my neck and was massaging my breasts and it felt so sexy! In about 20 minutes be built to a climax and spent in me again and then we cuddled. Then he got dressed and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great! We hooked up a couple more times but couldn’t recreate the magic of that night/morning.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I let one friend know and she was interested in the details.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Hot sex
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We couldn’t recreate the magic.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex should not have a stigma in and of itself if it is two consenting adults.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it. Keep up the good work!
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