by Plain Jane
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA, California
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Year ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was pretty nerdy but definitely the cutest of his friends. His short scruffy beard and his blue eye are gorgeous and has a pretty cute butt! As we have hooked up more and more I find him to be funny. He shares my sarcastic humor.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Hookups started about a year ago near my birthday, I went out with my sister to our favorite college bar. My sister is very “outgoing” when she drinks and randomly invites herself to a table with these guys while I get our drinks. We all start talking and I start flirting with Ron. My sister keeps nudging me saying how cute he is. We end up going to another bar to go dancing, and me and Ron sneak off to go make out in the corner of the bar. He somewhat instigated the first kiss but I was more than into it. Eventually we catch a ride from our sober driver to his place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? For the first few months we would just have sex like 2 or 3 times at night and then once again in the morning. I like morning sex. For a pretty nerdy guy, he is fantastic in bed. We give each other oral as foreplay making sure we are both about to climax before even getting to the main event. He knows I like it real deep and have clitoral stimulation. Because we have hooked up so much we are comfortable with telling each other what we want.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We make good fuck buddies because we are comfortable with each other but both don’t want anything serious. We always talk after sex about anything. We both get our sex drives settled without having to find numerous partners.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My sister who still thinks he and I should date but that’s not going to happen.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex, seriously the best sex I’ve ever had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He is moving soon. Losing my fuck buddy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It oddly made me very confident in my body and sexuality. I think casual sex can be a positive experience if you are actively seeking it.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s not taboo, it can actually be a great thing!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!
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