What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Shanghai, NYC, NJ
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Private Equity Intern
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Deviant
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
With a 62 Year Old
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was Australian, but sounded British to me, anywhere that wasn’t America. I didn’t know her that well. We started with a drink at the bar then moved into her apartment. After exchanging a few pleasantries, we moved into deep conversation quickly.
I had just met her at the bar in some restaurant. I felt that she was an intricately interesting person with several stories to be told and heard. I looked forward to having more conversations with her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began when she inquired the color of my suit’s lining. I said you have two options: either I take it off for you for a better view, or you move in closer and take a look from the side. No planning was really involved, but I think she instigated it. Neither of us really cared about the age difference.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, vaginal, anal and kinky stuff happened. It started with a normal conversation. Then we changed locations. Our lips intertwined first, followed with a twist and tough of tongues. She kissed me so hard that I considered getting more dental insurance. I’m into feet. So I moved down, then up to cunnilingus, then some vaginal, normal vanilla sex. She was into domination. I felt motivated to perform better, which she liked very much. In bed, we had a little mom-son role play. My partner was unimaginably energetic, passionate, and thirsty considering her age. She was a great lover, philosophical talker, and a fantastic listener.
We talked about her early schooling in the US. Her family story. Her smoking fetish. How the vanilla corporate life turned her into a kink bomb. It ended with a strong ejaculation on her panties. Afterward, I laid on the bed, and she laid on top of my chest. Then we started again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner…), Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why just went along with it, It was easy/convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told part of this hookup stories. My audience is the friends I am staying with, a family. They were surprised. Sensing the reluctance to hear the full story, so I stopped.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The passion of an elder woman. How she knows what she likes, what she is willing to try, and how she achieves her goals. Her passion and inquisitive spirit leads and guides me to be a better love maker. Her techniques make me more skillful as well.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I have poor hearing in one year. I missed out some of the words she said. In the end, I felt a slight lack of intimate communication on my end. I did not like the fact that she was always in a dominant role.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I gained confidence. I found myself to be a good listener and an interesting talker. I felt special when she praised my sensual kisses. In terms of my attitude toward casual sex, the experience negates the common definition of casual sex, in that casual sex is perpetually flimsy and decided on a whim. No. The sexual experience I had is rather a romantic journey. I made a good friend and moved into intimacy.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? She is a member of high society. But my background is similar to hers as well.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is like intimate entertainment. For me, it requires personal attachment and connection. When it comes to the role it plays in society, it has its pro and cons. I do not like to see borderline rape and non-consensual sex. Passion without love takes away the human side. I would like to see people be more open, spiritual, and honest with their sexual desires.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I read about it in New Yorker and I am willing to share. I also want to read more about others’ experience.
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