What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 31
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? >20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
With Married Woman
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Amy is average height. She has a nice body and tits, shoulder length brunette hair. She is 32 years old and married with kids. She’s also a friend of a girl I used to date a long time ago.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I got a message from Amy on Facebook, asking if I use Snapchat. We used Snapchat to message each other. She was direct in asking if I would like to hook-up. Until now, I’d never had a conversation with her. I met her out on the lake on a friend’s boat last summer but she was married with kids. She told me they recently decided to have an open marriage and it was her turn to have fun. Melanie thought I would be perfect. We came up with a good time when she could come over to my place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Amy came to my house and we had sex a couple of times that day. She was horny and incredible in bed. We gave each other oral, did missionary, her on top and doggy.
When we finished, we laid in bed naked and she told me her husband was cheating but didn’t want a divorce. Plus, they have kids to think of too. He suggested an open marriage. They agreed as long as they don’t bring anyone to their home, keep things discrete from the kids, and use protection. She asked if we could continue seeing each other for sex. I agreed.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Amy and I hook-up a couple of times a week now. She’s on birth control and only having sex with me. The third time we hooked-up, she asked if we could stop using condoms. I gladly agreed.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. They think it’s cool that I have a married woman coming over for sex a few times a week.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I now have a friend that comes over for sex a couple of times a week.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sometimes trying things like an open marriage can save a marriage.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good idea.
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