What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Municipal worker
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Woman at Work
How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Late 40s, knew who she was from a previous job. Struck up a conversation and went from there. There was a connection, and we were both interested.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We started talking and texting, she had been at this current workplace longer than I. She offered to show me the lay of the land, we went for drinks, coffee, lunch several times. Some minor flirting, that gradually got heavier.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had texted, and a few nude pics had gone back and forth. I instigated a meet for drinks. We had done this before which had led to kissing. This time we went out to my vehicle and started kissing again. It led to us both wanting more, so my hand ended up in her pants, rubbing her clit and fingering her. She took her pants and panties off and I went down on her as best I could. She was very sexy and enjoyed what I was doing. We ended up having sex in several awkward positions, but it was still good.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We talked about doing it again but so far it hasn’t materialized. She became distant over her work environment, we have just rebroken the ice and we will see where it leads. May go nowhere.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My wife months later. She was mostly neutral, only annoyed I didn’t tell her when it happened.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I enjoy her company and pretty much her as a person. That made it more erotic for me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was a one time deal (so far))
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I can have casual sex whenever I want, being in an open marriage allows me that freedom. My problem is finding women who don’t see that as a problem for them. I have only pursued single women, which I felt was safer, but they aren’t always interested in a married man, especially one who has permission. People need to broaden their horizons. The best sex I have had was not with my wife, but a mistress. Doesn’t change who I love, just who fucked the best.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting
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