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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? School Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Four total, three at the time of this hookup story.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

“Won’t you let me be a Slut?”

How long ago did this hookup happen? Five years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was funny, smart, and outgoing, with a sparkling personality. She was tall, about 5 foot 9 (which is about my height). She was a white woman with blue eyes and (dyed) blonde hair. She had a fairly pretty face, with a slim body, large breasts, and long legs.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were both college students from the southern United States. We met while in summer intersession classes; we were both taking foreign language courses at a University in France. We were both around 21 years old at the time. We became friends over the first three or four weeks of the classes. There was definitely some sexual tension between us. I tend to be introverted, however, and I was lacking in both confidence and experience, so I didn’t do anything about this tension.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Our hookup happened on the last night of the summer intersession. We got drunk at a dormitory party. At one point she said, “Won’t you let me be a slut, just this once?” I couldn’t very well pass up a wide-open invitation like that.

We went back to my dormitory room and took off our clothes in a quick, unceremonious manner. I told her she had a beautiful body, which she did. We made out a bit and I kissed her neck and breasts. She performed oral sex on me so I could get an erection. I was very inexperienced at that time in my life, and understood little about foreplay, so I didn’t do much to “warm her up.”

We had vaginal sex for a while in the “missionary” position. Then she got on her hands and knees while I put on a condom. We had sex for a while “doggy style,” at which point I had an orgasm. She passed out naked on my bed, while I packed my belongings and got on the bus that was going to take me to the airport.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I saw her back in the US several months later, and we laughed about it. We were still firm friends. I apologized for not performing as well as I could have. She said that, after I left, her friends had to search for her so she didn’t miss her flight home; she said they teased her about how they found her naked and unconscious in a bed without any sheets.

On one hand I felt good about our hookup; I didn’t have much self-confidence, so knowing that an attractive woman was attracted to me was a big boost for me. I also liked knowing I was capable of casual sex, and not necessarily going to fall head-over-heels in love with any girl that would notice me.

On the other hand, I felt bad that I hadn’t been able to pleasure her as much as I wanted to. I’m much more sexually confident and experienced these days, and I sometimes wish I could see her again to “make it up” to her.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend of mine. He thought it was “cool.”

As I said, her friends had to search for her so she didn’t miss her flight home, and they teased her about how they found her naked and unconscious in a bed without any sheets. I later found out that one of her friends had had a crush on me and was intensely jealous of our hookup.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sense of adventure.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I didn’t pleasure her as much as I wanted to.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I didn’t have much self-confidence at the time, so knowing that an attractive woman was attracted to me was a big boost. I also liked knowing I was capable of casual sex, and not necessarily going to fall head-over-heels in love with any girl that would notice me.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it can be healthy and necessary at certain points in a person’s life.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s interesting, both in a erotic way and in a sociological way.

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