by Dr. of Love

Gender: Male
Age: 39
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Current location: Orange County
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Physician
Relationship status: One night stand / coworker
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Work & Play

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 years

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One night

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Completely professional relationship.  I was the physician, she worked under me as my physician assistant.  No  social relationship beyond that.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I threw a party at my house.   Coincidentally one of my partners had committed suicide the night before and I was the last person to talk to him.  Emotions were running high that night.   I was very intoxicated.  My kinda girlfriend came (we had not had sex yet).  She left early.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Everything.   We were both intoxicated.  She asked if she could kiss me.   While kissing I unbuttoned her shirt and motioned her to the warm spa.   She removed everything but her underwear and got in.   I followed.  The I tore off her panties and bra while we were under the jets and ate her out twice to orgasm.  We then went inside and sucked and tucked for hours.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No

Her, yes times three.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Emotional turmoil due to my partner having committed suicide the night before and me being the last person he spoke to.

Slow moving relationship w the girl I was with.  We had not had sex but I always thought she might be hooking up occasionally w her ex.

Also alcohol.

Also, horny as hell.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes. Lots for me.

Only some for her.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I asked her to be discreet since I had a girlfriend.   She wanted more but agreed.

She facebook friended me. I declined.

No longer working together.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was dangerous (my girlfriend at the time and now the mother if my kids never knew). That was the best.  Also, my hookup partner turned out to be a whore in bed. Unexpected but much appreciated.

Worse, technically I cheated on my girlfriend although some may say not cuz we had not had sex yet.

Looking back, I wished I had put a hold on my then stale  relationship and instead fucked the living daylights out my one night stand partner a few more times.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I really think society should understand that humans are not meant to be monogamous.   It’s a pity that for most in our society, having a partner outside a relationship feels so threatening when it should be accepted as a normal expression of human needs and sexuality.

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