What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? College Station, Tx, US
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Worst 10 minutes Of My Life
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, dark with a 5 o’clock shadow. He wasn’t handsome in my terms and seemed kinda dorky. I didn’t know him too well, I just wanted to rebound. It didn’t seem like a bad idea to me at first
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in my dorm room on my bed. I was horny and it wasn’t really planned. He definitely instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? First off, he was on top which is a big no for me. I don’t enjoy missionary one bit. He didn’t have confidence or swagger, and kind of jackhammered the whole time. He kept asking how his big dick felt. He ate me out and fingered me aggressively. I got on top only for a few seconds. He twisted my nipples in an unsatisfactory way and paid no attention to my breasts at all. He fucked like a kid in high school whose parents were watching him. Also, he came inside of me without asking.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He asked if it was good and wanted to cuddle. I made him leave after a while. He creeped me out and made me feel uncomfortable. He seemed obsessive and smelled bad.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Peer pressure, Revenge / Getting even, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend. She thought it was weird too. My roomate as well, she got the same vibe from him too.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Very much
Why do you regret this hookup? I laid on my back and faked it
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? When it ended
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Everything. He told me I was aggressive and that I was too rough.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? That I definitely deserve to be fucked like a lady.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? My first time was way better than this and that only lasted 5 minutes
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Miss the guy I used to be with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it
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