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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Tattooer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Unsure
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Somewhere in the late twenties/early thirties.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? First timer here.

Worth The Wait

How long ago did this hookup happen? About six months ago.

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He has the most seductive brown eyes I’ve ever seen. He’s roughly four-five inches taller than I am. We first met at a party when we were both out of school for about a year but didn’t talk again until a couple years later. We first hooked up about four years ago when I wasn’t in a great place emotionally. I didn’t know him too well but what I did know was that I didn’t necessarily care for him too much as a person. We ran into each other at a bar and kind of talked shit to each other before we both ended up at a friend’s house. That was the first time, and it was SO GOOD. He always treated me with kindness after that but then moved out of state a few months later.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The recent hook up was when he came back to town years after the first time. He was someone that I knew I shouldn’t be hooking up with but I was a sucker for him. I couldn’t say no. We talked over text for about a week before he came back to the state that I lived in, and I told him nothing would happen and we would just catch up. Although I was hoping for more, I just didn’t want to admit it. He came to my house and we did talk and enjoy each other’s company for a bit, but then he stood in front of me while I was sitting on the kitchen counter. He stared right into my eyes and I was struck by how handsome he was and we started making out. It was planned in a way. There was just something about people you weren’t supposed to have sex with.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was very dominating. We made out when I was still on the counter and he started to lift up my dress before picking me up and moving me into the living room. Now I was straddling his lap and unbuttoning my dress while he was taking his shirt off. I stood up to get my underwear off and he stood up to take his pants off. He grabbed me by the hair and I knelt down to give him oral, and then he lay me down and did the same to me. After that I got on top of him, then he got on top of me with my legs on his shoulders. He lightly slapped me a few times but I told him not to leave any marks on me like the last time. I didn’t want bruises and hickeys all over my inner thighs, chest, and neck this time because of work. He went down on me again and after we talked and mused about a different dimension where we were meant for each other. After that and a few laughs, I sent him back to where he was staying while he was in town.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were able to talk and laugh. We lay together for a while and stared at each other. He isn’t someone I want to date but I will always want to fuck him if the opportunity presents itself. I enjoy his company when we are together but I still have a hard time deciding whether I like him as a person. I think we are both incredibly similar when it comes to sexual encounters and I don’t always think my morals are something I am proud of.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy/convenient

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few close friends. They were happy for me, they knew how much I enjoyed the previous hook up with him.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best thing about it was that it finally happened again while both of us were unsure if it ever would.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The worst part is that it can’t happen regularly.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Sometimes it makes me question if I’ll ever find someone who satisfies me as much as he does. Even when I am in relationships I still think of him every now and then. That part makes me feel bad.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I hope it can happen again someday if he comes back to town and I am not with anyone.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it is fine as long as everyone is honest about their intentions and treats their partner(s) with respect. Unfortunately, I have been lied to during the initial talk about it being strictly casual and not wanting more. I’m not sure if the lie was intentional but sometimes the other person gets attached and that can be very upsetting because I don’t want my partner to get hurt.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it may be eye-opening for people who don’t have casual sex and who may look down on it. I am a fan of casual sex and don’t view it in a negative light.

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