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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Wrong but so Right

How long ago did this hookup happen? a week ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is my best friend, and I had always been attracted to him. I met him two years ago, when we started college together and we started getting really close about a year ago. We tell each other everything, and we both knew we liked each other sexually but we were both in relationships.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were in school, pulling an all nighter and working on our finals, and he told me let’s go to my house and take a little nap. I was really tired so I told him yes and we snuck out. When we got to his place we both laid in the bed and started watching TV. He reached out and told me to come near and put my head on his chest. I turned to face him and he looked at me and our lips were just barely touching. He asked me if I wanted this to happen because he knew I had a boyfriend and when I told him yes he started kissing me.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We made out for a long while, he on top of me and then me on top and rolling around all over the bed, it was really passionate. Then he asked if it was alright to take my clothes on, and I said yes and he started undressing me. He was a gentleman all the time, he was touching me and told me to put my hand on top of his so I could stop him if he did something I didn’t want. Then he put on a condom and penetrated me, and it felt great compared to other experiences. We got to it and at one point it got so intense we broke the bed.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? we kept talking as usual, and we settled into a kind of friends with benefits relationship that is actually working pretty great

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? it felt amazing, and it was something i had wanted for a long time, it made me feel desired in a way i had never felt before

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was cheating

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, it felt a lot better than i thought it would and i think i would enjoy a more open sex life

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I had only been with my boyfriend before, and I hadn’t even realized that our sex life was pretty bad, this hookup gave me a whole new perspective about sex

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? its great to get people talking about this

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!