by Lookin for somethin…

Gender: Female
Age: 30’s
Race/ethnicity: Other
Current location: Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Business
Relationship status: Separated
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Open minded
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 2
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

You Call That Good Sex

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Short fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met online… Had good chemistry. He was really funny, sarcastic, looking for a good time. We met over drinks twice before hooking up. He was charming, and super interested. I was looking for casual and fun.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We agreed to meet again, after messing around in his car during our 2nd date. Mutually agreed that we wanted to fuck each other, agreed to rent a hotel. he was very open to talking about fantasies, and wanting to make mine come true (not a bad thing right?). He was very open about what he liked. Leading up to the night we were texting constantly… And the anticipation was insanely hot!

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got to the hotel, had some drinks and then started by kissing… Kissing him was good, we were both into it and he was a good kisser. He wasn’t shy, was dominant (which turns me on) and not afraid to take the lead. Then he took off my clothes, and took off his…. This is the beginning of the end. For all his talk about being a good lover, being well endowed it was just that. Talk!!! I kinda felt sorry for him that he had such a high opinion of himself. He was awkward and definitely got all his training from porn. Do women actually like jack-hammer sex? He had little skill and no game.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? The sex was not great, although he did go down on me and made me cum. After several awkward positions; We did it doggie style and he came too.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I definitely was not gonna fuck him without a condom… He was surprised and bummed as he doesn’t like condoms. But it’s a deal breaker for me so he agreed. 

I was on the pill too, so not worried about pregnancy.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Newly separated… After miserable marriage. I wanted to have fun, and have sex

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Couple of beers each.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We went to dinner, came back to the hotel. I was hoping for more sex (maybe 2nd time’s a charm) but it went to strangely platonic. We watched a movie and fell asleep. 

It was weird to share to sleep (weird I know) with a stranger, strangely more intimate than fucking.  The next morning was strange, we kissed a lot, held hands, grabbed coffee and then said goodbye. We texted throughout the day.

Went out once more after this, had sex again… Still a let down… And then things fizzled out. Random texts every so often… Haven’t seen him since

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. My friends are either unhappily married, or prudish… Surprisingly I am the only open minded person in my circle.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes definitely consensual for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all. I am open minded and wanted the experience even if it was bad sex.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was for me, to express my “wild side” and not let expectations get in the way.  The worst was the incompatibility sexually, as the chemistry was great before hooking up.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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