Current location: New York, NY
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Relationship status: Single
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 35ish
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few
Your Dick Looks Like a Lightsaber
How long ago did this hookup happen? Nearly 2 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I first met Aleksander at my friend Emma’s birthday dinner back when we were seniors in high school. He immediately expressed an attraction to me, which was flattering, but I had a boyfriend at the time. He’s from Albania and is about 5’8″ with dark hair and light eyes (I’m a sucker for that combo). He was really sarcastic and cracked a lot of jokes, which I knew would get annoying in the long run but for short interactions it was pretty entertaining.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At the end of the summer before college, I found myself boyfriend-less for the first time in a year. I wasn’t looking for a one-night stand or anything, but my mindset about casual sex had definitely changed. So when Emma invited me to her friend’s beach house for the night and told me Aleksander would be there, I slipped a couple of condoms into my bag just in case.
Emma and I arrived at the beach house hours after everyone else, who was already drunk. From the moment we walked through the door, Aleksander was all over me. Emma and I quickly caught up drinkswise. In the early evening, Aleksander and I realized we had the living room to ourselves and made out for a bit. It wasn’t anything magical, but it also wasn’t terrible…which is why I to this day remain confused as to what happened next. After we had finished making out (we were interrupted), his entire mood changed. He stopped making advances, he started avoiding eye contact with me…overall he seemed to just want to stay away from me. However, our stuff had already been tossed into the same room (a tiny bedroom off the living room with 2 twin beds) and when it came time to go to bed, he didn’t move his stuff. Now, I could have allowed myself a bit more self respect and slept in the living room (or just go to sleep), but I had already come to terms with the fact that I was going to get laid that night, so I made a big show of changing in front of him. His eyes definitely stopped avoiding me then. We began to talk more and his body language reverted back to attracted. Confident that he wouldn’t refuse me at that point, I sat down on his bed and we began making small talk.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I don’t remember who made the first “official” move (i.e. kissing, boob-grabbing, what have you), but I do remember him turning off the lights. This was, unfortunately, problematic, since the room was windowless and therefore pitch black. There were no other lamps in the room, though, and the overhead light was horribly unattractive. That’s when I remembered the condoms I’d brought along. One of them was glow in the dark! I turned on the light and rooted through my bag until I found it. I told him to close his eyes and let me take care of it. He was suspicious, but did it anyway (my hand was going to be on his cock, of course he wasn’t going to say no). When he opened his eyes, the lights were off and his dick looked like a lightsaber, which I said outright. He laughed and swung it back and forth a couple times, making that deep drone-like sound lightsabers make. I then straddled him and, watching our genitals closely, as his were our only source of light, I lowered my pussy down over his dick. He wasn’t very big and not super hard, so being on top really did nothing for me. I asked him, after a couple minutes, to take me from behind. He obliged, telling me my ass looked phenomenal in the glow of his dick. He came after only a couple more minutes and slumped next to me after. Neither of us spoke for a minute, then he started to get up to go to my bed. I stopped him, confused, and said I would sleep in my own bed, thanks. So, I went to my bed and we both fell asleep.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t. At the time I didn’t care because I hadn’t had an orgasm vaginally yet, but now it would bother me that he came and didn’t try to get me off at all.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom and I have an IUD.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was the end of the summer, we were at the beach, and I had just gotten out of a LTR. I wanted to blow off some sexual steam.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Yes, LOTS of alcohol for all parties involved. I also smoked a bit of weed.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning, I woke up alone in the room. When I joined people in the living room, Aleksander was back to treating me like a poisonous mushroom: slightly scared and like you need to give it a wide berth. I acted as if nothing had happened last night and we all went about our mornings normally. When it came time for Aleksander to leave (he had to leave earlier than the rest of us for college registration), he hugged me and smiled, but the whole thing was just really uncomfortable before and after we fucked.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to Emma about it before anyone else. She was kinda weirded out, just because she has never seen Aleksander in a sexual light and doesn’t understand the appeal (not that there’s an excessive amount of it), but still supportive. A lot of my friends from home know as well.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, consensual for both parties.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? To be honest, a little bit. I know it’s useless to regret something, and I definitely am not beating myself up over it or anything, but I got relatively nothing out of it and was treated like shit by the guy who got everything out of it. And I was the main instigator of the actual hookup. So I’m not pleased about the whole thing to be honest.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was probably watching his quick turn around in interest once I was undressing (high school boys are so easy it’s adorable). The worst? That I wasted my glow in the dark condom on such a twat.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? A part of me has been thinking that maybe he was weird the next morning because he thought I’d get clingy or something. ATTENTION MALE POPULATION: Just because you give a girl a bit of the dick does NOT mean that she will fall in love with you.
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