What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 59
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? retired
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? none
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100 plus
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? yesterday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She’s about 5’5″ and 126 pounds, red head, firm body. We’ve been together 6 years and hook up 4 to 6 times a month. We met through a mutual female friend.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My friend told me she was interested in a white lover so we made plans for a one time fling, which has lasted over six years.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She gave me oral, and then we started having vaginal sex when someone knocked on the door of my friends apartment. She thought it was her husband and freaked out. My friend had to take me to completion.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? She contacted me and asked if we could get together again soon. I felt we could make it work and was correct.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend. She was ok with bringing me to completion since we had prior connections.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It lead to a long term relationship
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not having a comfort zone
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? great
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? great with no changed needed
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? good ideal
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